Recently my 9 year old has been doing too much for me, she cleans and runs around like a crazy thing. I regularly tell her to stop and last week I told her no, you will not do this, it is my job, enjoy yourself, be a child. So I thought it had stopped for a few days. However I got up this morning and she'd woken up in the night to fold the clothes, sweep the floors, lay out her siblings clothes for the day and then had proceeded to do a general tidy.
I know it sounds crazy but it's got to stop, she's tiring herself out and I just want her to be a child. I think I need to convince her that I'm okay and that I need to be the one to look after her. We suffered the loss of her father and sister a few months ago and since then she seems to think she should look after me. It's almost as if she's trying to take over her father's role and I've tried talking to her, I've tried doing every possible thing, I've tried drawing her up a chart and saying she has set chores. I'm just really saddened by it almost, she's just a baby and she's trying to take on too much. My house is clean and my work always gets done so I don't think it's that she feels more needs to be done as one of my friends suggested. I have a feeling that punishing her will do more harm than good. Maybe she's trying to keep herself busy, I just don't know.
We go to grief counsellors and I mentioned it but she dismissed it and basically laughed it off (these people are absolutely rubbish...) so I'm just looking for some way to distract her maybe? Or to prove that she shouldn't do it? Or to lightly punish? She's a little godsend but I want to look after her, not the other way round!
Sorry that this has been so long winded, I'm just so worried.
Answer by angelm523 at 9:31 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by MamaStuart at 8:37 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by genagina at 8:35 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
If your grief counselors aren't taking it seriously then maybe you should see someone else. I agree with MamaStuart, she might not know how to deal with her grief.
Answer by mommy_jules at 8:40 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by tootoobusy at 8:41 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by older at 8:42 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by tootoobusy at 8:42 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 9:51 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:53 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
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