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If you were with your mate for approximately 20 years and that person cheated would you stay or go??

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rosesrred1

Asked by rosesrred1 at 11:31 AM on Feb. 15, 2011 in Relationships

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  • probably leave
    febmom007

    Answer by febmom007 at 11:32 AM on Feb. 15, 2011

  • I guess it would depend on the circumstances. Was it a one time thing that happened 15 years ago or was it something that was recent?

    JeremysMom

    Answer by JeremysMom at 11:33 AM on Feb. 15, 2011

  • It would depend on the circumstances. Is it a one night stand? Or were they involved in a long term relationship? if the first then I might be able to forgive them and not throw away 20 yrs of marriage. If the former, then Id be packing their bags for them.
    gemgem

    Answer by gemgem at 11:34 AM on Feb. 15, 2011

  • it depends...was it a one time thing or did he have ongoing affair. If my DH had a one night stand kind of cheating, and he was sincerely sorry, I think I could forgive him. It might take a while and I might have to put him on probation, but I think I would stay. However, if had a a serious relationship with someone or multiple partners, I think I would leave. That is just me though.
    mommy_jules

    Answer by mommy_jules at 11:35 AM on Feb. 15, 2011

  • I would stay until I had exhausted every avenue for reconciliation and restoration.
    NannyB.

    Answer by NannyB. at 11:35 AM on Feb. 15, 2011

  • I would leave.

    Cheating disgusts me.
    Simplicity3

    Answer by Simplicity3 at 11:36 AM on Feb. 15, 2011

  • Stay. The grass wouldn't be any greener on the other side of the fence and with 20 years invested, who would want to start over. Besides, didn't you make a commitment when you said your vows?
    TALuke

    Answer by TALuke at 11:44 AM on Feb. 15, 2011

  • probably go
    Amanda11810

    Answer by Amanda11810 at 11:46 AM on Feb. 15, 2011

  • We were together for 7 years when we had that problem. I left and two years later we are remarried.....I have no explanation.
    TwilightMack

    Answer by TwilightMack at 11:59 AM on Feb. 15, 2011

  • hugs FIRST N FOREMOST REMEBER IT WASN'T YOUR FAULT!!! NO MATTER WHAT! WE ALL HAVE THE ABILITY TO SAY YES OR NOT. LIFE SO FUNNY BECAUSE 1 INCIDENT CAN ALTER YOUR LIFE FOREVER. I AGREE WITH THE FIRST 3 DIVAS :o).I N REFRENCE 2 YOUR QUESTION HMMMM, I'D SAY YOU KNOW WHAT YOU"VE GOT BUT YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT YOU'LL GET. NO MATTER WHAT YOU DECIDE I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST .

    laddybuug

    Answer by laddybuug at 11:59 AM on Feb. 15, 2011

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