Oh lord Acid, give it a rest.
This is very tragic.
First, this can highlight and cement the safety issues concerning a pool. Not in a mean way, but to reinforce that drownings are serious, quick, silent and deadly, even for dogs. This is why we don't play near the pool without an adult, etc.
Next, be truthful. Try to be less emotional with them and explain that it was a really bad accident. Be sure to be clear that the big dog didn't know what he was doing, dogs don't know about pools and drowning. The younger ones need that clarification so they don't blame the big dog. Explain to them that this is why animals need a lot of supervision because accidents can happen. It is very unfortunate but it isn't something that can be reversed. Hold a memorial for proper good byes/closure. And put a picture up of the dog looking the way you want him remembered.
I will light a candle for your puppy tonight. I am very sorry.
at 11:17 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
Awwww how sad!
Tell them that you are feeling as sad as they are and hug them and hold them tight.
Agree with them that it's not fair (if they say that) and reassure them that they will be alright.
IT'S OKAY to cry WITH them...it is a sad event. MANY parents try and hide their grief around
their children but I and many Dr's agree that letting your kids know that you are human and that this
is a human emotion is a good thing.
The more you reassure them, listen and share the saddness it will pass.
Good Luck and Once Again I am Terribly Sorry for You and Your Kids' Loss.
at 3:29 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
Honey, you are going to need to calm yourself though it's difficult. I know its incredibly upsetting. The kids are more than likely mostly upset because you are. Place the dog away from them and take them alone and calmly talk this through. The worst is over so you will be okay.
The kids need your support and talk right now. I'm sorry for what you're going through. Is there a neighbor or friend, if they can't come over just speaking on the phone can calm you at times. Best wishes.
at 3:33 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
Oh that's terrible. My heart goes out to you!
at 3:25 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
I am so so sorry.
at 3:27 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
That is terrible and I am very sorry for your lose. Do you believe in heaven? If so you can say he's happy up there playing with the other animals and people.
at 3:29 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
My almost 4-year-old saw our cat (who had just been ran over by a car) lying motionless in the road -- she asked what "kiki" was doing and I explained that she was resting because she was going to live with Jesus and was waiting on him to pick her up. She totally accepted this. I quickly called our neighbor who buried the cat for us. Now my child (in her prayers) will ask Jesus to tell KIKI "hi" and we miss her.
at 3:37 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
How horrible! So sorry for your loss!
at 3:30 PM on Feb. 15, 2011