my husband and i have been together for a year and a half, were engaged for 4 months, got married 3 weeks ago. we started dating while he was stationed in iraq, we had known each other from high school. ever since we started dating he has been in love with my son (from previous relationship) he used to talk to him on skype all the time, he was very attentive and sweet. because he is in the military we were unable to live together until we were married. we got married and then moved into a house close to his base. ever since we moved in together weve been fighting everyday. his demenour(sp?) has changed completely, to both my son and i. ive recently noticed that he just seems annoyed with us. my son is almost 3 so obviously his toys are all over the place and hes sometimes un controllable but honestly all around mostly he is so well behaved. now were talking about having a baby together but im not sure i want to have a baby with someone that gets annoyed by my own son.
my son doesnt take too well to my husband 1 because my husband is a sarcastic person who likes to mess around, he really means well but sarcasm and teasing is not gonna make a two year old like you lol. im having a hard time with letting him discipline my son also. i feel like sometimes its better if i just do it myself. keep in mind, ive been a single mother since my son was born, his father doesnt care about him at all. i alwyas thought marrying my husband was going to give us an amazing life but really im scared hes going to hate both of us and that he stopped loving us as much as he did before.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:39 PM on Feb. 15, 2011 in Relationships
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Answer by Missikat75 at 4:48 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
You have a lot going on here. If you want to make it work and you truly believe your husband can be a loving husband and father you have to get on the same page about discipline and you have to let him ease his way into to the father role. I understand feeling like it's easier to just deal with it yourself, but your son and your husband will have to build a relationship, which will require you stepping back sometimes and letting them figure it out. It takes time to mesh individuals into a family. I would definitely recommend holding off on having another baby until you get these issues worked out, even if it takes a few years. As for your husband seeming less loving than before, he may just be feeling a little overwhelmed. It's one thing to become a family and parent over time, but it's a whole different game when it happens suddenly. GL!
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