warning, I'm in a bad mood. venting.
you're probably seen posts from me before.
Long story short, I'm close to my niece who is now 7 and mommy doesn't like it. A lot of this came from my being there for her when mommy wasn't interested in her. She was expecting a boy, while I was ecstatic that I got the niece I'd waiting for all my life.
so anyway, there's been years of drama but it has gotten better.
well, my niece is a little diva drama queen and I'm sure a good part of that is my fault. I love her to death, but that's how she is. She over reacts to just about anything and everything. that's the way she is, and I love her. :)
so another school activity is coming up, and I imagine that mommy would like me to say away.
Myself and DH have no intention of doing so.
they've expressed a interest of us letting them know when we'll be there, and I've told them that I'll do my best. Seems to be that she thinks she can tell us to stay home.
she can, but we won't.
I've spoken to her husband about this, and he's always said the same. that school activities are open to the public, so no reason to clear it with them.
Then I get a letter that is allegedly from him claiming 'concern' about us showing up.
yeah well, mommy needs to realize that I can tell the letters she writes and the ones he does.
Hate to tell you this mommy, but your DH does NOT sign off on his letters the way you seem to think he does.
there are activities that they do that we don't attend, so they have their time when it's just them at these things.
I realize that my Drama queen niece may be claiming that she doesn't want us to go, but she does that just about every time that someone else is going to attend these things. then she's so happy she could burst when you are there.
she's like that about just about anything, she gets cranky that she doesn't want to do it, then later she's thrilled.
I swear she gets her temperament from my husband!!!!
Sure, my niece is mommy's daughter, but I'm not going to go along with this stuff and be the one who's asked one day 'why didn't you come to my stuff at school?' you know that will happen one day.
so as far as making mommy mad, then so be it.
I know the popular view point is that I should do all I can to keep mommy happy. Mommy is not my main concern, my niece is.
as uncooperative as I sound, I go with whatever mommy wants in almost any case.
but when it comes to situations like this, where she really can't keep me from attending most likely, then I will attend if I wish.
the reality is that I really don't need her permission.
there. I feel better now.
Asked by Anonymous at 7:25 PM on Feb. 15, 2011 in General Parenting
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