I see and hear about this alot, but now that it is happening to me, it is just driving me crazy...
I understand there is alot of step moms who play an active role in thier step childrens lives and therefore their input is accepted.... but that is now the case with me.
My ex husband and I have been divorced for going on 3 years --- We have a 5 year old son and a 7 year old daughter. He recently got married to a woman who he has known for less than a year. I have primary custody of our kids, he sees them twice a month ( every other saturday) usually for about 4 or 5 hours.
He and I have never really had a problem, we ended on good terms and have been pretty friendly since the divorce and he has never had a problem on how I am raising our children.
His new wife however ( who doesnt have her own kids) insists that she needs to tell me how I am doing everything wrong... tries to give me "advice" on everything .... tries to tell me when the kids should go to bed, what they should eat .....
I have tried to grit my teeth, but I cant take it anymore... my ex just stays quite and apoligizes to me later ( without her around) ....
where in the hell does a woman who SOMETIMES has a few hour visit , twice a month with MY kids, get off telling me how how to raise them....
Asked by Anonymous at 10:13 PM on Feb. 15, 2011 in Parenting Debate
First off, telling ANYONE how to raise THEIR children is dangerous territory to start with. A step parent? Ehhh, I'd be pissed off too and I'd tell her to shove her advice up her ass. Those are NOT her children, they are yours. And I'm sorry but I wouldn't really be listening to someone who doesn't have kids to start with so that would be a double whammy.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 10:16 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
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Answer by MommaClark3 at 10:22 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
Answer by tnteaton at 10:50 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
Answer by JLS2388 at 11:03 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
Answer by pswiley at 11:47 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 12:26 AM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by amessageofhope at 1:04 AM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by mamastyles at 1:15 AM on Feb. 16, 2011
You need to tell her that no one is better qualified than you are to make decisions concerning your children's welfare, especially someone who has no parenting experience.
Answer by beeky at 7:31 AM on Feb. 16, 2011
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