when I was little I went trick or treating with the girls next door. At pretty much our first house there was a man who was missing a hand for whatever reason.
I'd seen a lot of old movies where people had hooks when they were missing a hand, and I'd seen captain hook. So I asked the man if he had a hook for his arm. He said he did, and told us all about the different things he had and used to help him with this handicap.
The other girl's mother confronted my mom about how she 'needed to talk to me about that' that it was very wrong for me to ask such a question.
the next week my mother saw this man's picture in the paper, he was a public speaker about how to be at ease with the handicapped.
what do you think?
Answer by amessageofhope at 12:37 AM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by canadianmom1974 at 11:55 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
I would rather my child ask out of curiosity then stare. Kids are naturally curious and as long as they are not being rude about it I don't see anything wrong with it.
Answer by Charis76 at 11:44 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
Answer by Imortlmommy at 11:35 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
Answer by suhweetness at 11:36 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
Answer by gou18 at 11:55 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
Answer by Piskie at 8:50 AM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by matthewscandi at 9:03 AM on Feb. 16, 2011
It is better they ask and see it as normal than get told they should not ask. That is how kids start to see it as strange or different. If you let them ask questions like they do about everything else than it is normal and they will treat those people like normal people.
One of my twins noticed the difference in a down syndrome child at school and asked me why her eyes where that way. I told her that we are all different and she was born like that. My daughter than told everyone that she wanted pretty eyes like that girl. She still tells the girl every day how pretty her eyes are.
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 10:15 AM on Feb. 16, 2011
You did nothing wrong, but the other girl's mom crossed the line.
My father was frequently asked how he lost his fingers and it never bothered him.
Answer by beeky at 10:27 AM on Feb. 16, 2011