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bus stop problems

My little boy is 5 and in kindergarten. He loved school until about 2 weeks ago. Now he doesnt want to go. I found out at the bus stop( i dont go he goes with big brother) That the neighbor kids have been making fun of him calling him a midget and laughing at him. He only weighs 30 pounds an has cleft lip and palate. I told the bus driver and she said she would take care of it. I thought about going to talk to the parents but the parents cant talk English. So what do you do. I am getting ready to have a baby and I wont be able to go to the bus stop everyday.

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tdawn_21

Asked by tdawn_21 at 7:52 AM on Nov. 18, 2008 in General Parenting

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  • Tell the school. Is there another bus stop close to your house that he could go to instead??
    Steph319

    Answer by Steph319 at 7:56 AM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • Its a shame b/c while hes at the actual bus stop theres nothing anyone can do. He would prob still make fun while no one else is around. I would talk to the school and have them contact his parents. Im sure they have a translater. Maybe have them make the other boys parents walk him to the bus stop to avoid it
    Steph319

    Answer by Steph319 at 7:59 AM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • Or you could go to the bus stop one morning and educate the kid a little about your son. Kids can be cruel but sometimes dont understand. Maybe if you talk to him yourself it will help GL
    Steph319

    Answer by Steph319 at 8:01 AM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • Call the school's Principal tell him or her the situation. Most school's nowadays have a some kind of no bullying policy. And find a neighbor/friend who speak their language to tell them of what their child has been doing. And if all else fails the police may scare the kid straight.

    myzero

    Answer by myzero at 8:03 AM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • Every school, by federal law, has to have a policy on bullying. Call and ask to see a written copy of this policy. Some schools do not have one in place (oops) but most do. The federal states that every child has the right to a fair and adequate education. If something interferes with their ability to learn then the school is legally obligated to ensure that steps are taken to make that environment more condusive to learning for that child. Harassment and bullying fall into this catagory. Document your child's behaviors and feelings. For example, he is depressed/sad, tearful, is sick more often (kids who are teased and sad have a lower immune system), and fearful. The school HAS to take action.
    frogdawg

    Answer by frogdawg at 8:43 AM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • cont...Put in writing the exact effects this teasing, call it bullying, has had on your child and how it has impacted his ability to receive an adequate education. Then write why your child is more succeptable to harassment: cleft palet and being under weight. Request (although it is required of the school) to put in writtiing what the plan is to stop the current harassment and reduce his risks in the future. Make sure you have their plan in writting. If you talk to them by phone or in person follow up with an e-mail - "I am following up with our meeting that took place on ...... about....and you stated you willl..........." Put a tag on so you know that the e-mail was received and read. If the harassement is still there then go to the district. And keep moving up until it stops.
    frogdawg

    Answer by frogdawg at 8:48 AM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • cont...The school may not think this is such a big deal. Be sweet to them but also assure them this is a big deal. It is a big deal because your son is learning not to like school, he is at risk for depression and low self-esteem, and it impacts grades. So make sure you take this seriously. Let them know you are willing to work with them, smile (even if they act like idiots), and don't let them blame this on your child. It is classic to turn the tables around and say that the victim starts it and is egging them on. Even document incidents that your older son accounts of how it happend. Each time you talk to the bus driver document that as well.
    frogdawg

    Answer by frogdawg at 8:51 AM on Nov. 18, 2008

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