I recently had to move back to the city to live with my friend, and all I currently have in my posession is some clothes. I didn't pick which clothes I got to take, my son's dad had to give bags of clothes to my mom, because I'm not allowed there - things did not end well with us and we aren't supposed to see each other - and I'm left with absolute crap. I have one or two nice outfits for job interviews, a couple of my "nicer" jeans and t-shirts, and the rest is junk (either clothes that have seen better days, clothes that don't fit, or "at home" clothes). Like I said, I have a couple outfits I can wear to interviews, but I have nothing I can work in when I do get a job.
The rest of my stuff is either at my dad's, in their rented storage space, or still at my ex's place. All three of those places are not in the same city I am in. I can't drive, so I'm not able to go myself to pick any of my stuff up myself. My ex is on his second DUI, so he can't bring anything here (not like he ever would anyway). I have asked my dad & my other parents so many times to PLEASE bring me my stuff, but they won't. My mom lives too far away and is too busy, and my dad just won't. I'm not asking him to haul everything I own out here in one day - just one or two boxes/bags every week or two.
I do eventually want all my stuff here, even though it's not a long-term living situation, because I want to downsize. I don't know how long I will be living here, so I want to take care of it before I go somewhere else. I want to go through everything I have and either sell or donate what I no longer want - that way when I DO get my own place, it will be less to move/store. Makes sense to me!
I told that to my dad, but he just refuses. He's afraid he'll have to move me back to their town AGAIN, but I have no plans of ever moving back there. When I leave here, it will be to another place in this city, and if he doesn't want to help me move beyond that, he doesn't have to. But I need my things here. I feel like I have nothing.
I have asked him politely to bring my stuff here. Just on a Saturday when he's free, to bring a couple of bins so I can go through those and get rid of things before he can bring more. They only live about a 15 minute drive away, so I am not asking a lot.
I should add that I have no friends with cars who are willing to help either. The friend I live with can drive, but he doesn't have a vehicle as he uses transit instead. Any friend I have who does drive is not a close friend, and most of them live much farther away than my parents do. I can't afford to take a cab or anything out there to pick anything up (that would cost around $100 at the very least).
I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like my family is witholding everything from me, like they're trying to make me do something... what, I don't know. I don't know how to talk to my dad about this to make him understand that I need that stuff. I haven't even seen most of my nice clothes (clothes I could wear to interviews or to jobs) for a year now, because of my dad.
What can I say to him?
Answer by Kimimale at 2:31 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by gdiamante at 2:31 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by lucky35 at 2:34 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by ImaginationMama at 2:37 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by gdiamante at 3:55 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by gdiamante at 3:56 PM on Feb. 16, 2011