For example, a pregnant mom was having a hard time with her preschool aged son at lunch today. The boy was climbing into the windows of the Chipotle restaurant, calling his mother "stupid" and running around the place. The mom had spoken to him several times and you could tell she was really trying to get him to settle down, sit down and eat but he just kept pushing the boundaries. She finally had had enough and got up from the table, grabbed him by the wrist and took him into the bathroom saying it was time for a spanking. Obviously the kid kind of fought her and yelled "NO!" a few times but she took him into the bathroom anyway.
Let's assume you could hear him getting swat on the butt and the next thing you know, the manager of the Chipotle is pounding on the door saying loudly "Is everything ok in there?" The mom opens the door and calmly says "Yes, we're fine. I'm disciplining my child." and closes the door. The manager then pounds on the door, opens it up and screams "PLEASE STOP! You can't do that here!"
The mom asks, "Can't do what? Spank my child and talk to him about his behavior?"
The manager says "No, you can't spank him here. I'm VERY offended. Look I'm shaking." and holds out a shaking hand. The mom replies, "I'm sorry you're offended but this is how we discipline our child when he is unruly and causing a commotion like he is right now." The manager says "Well, you can't do that here."
The mom says "Fine we'll leave and we won't be returning."
The mom takes the child back to the table where the grandmother is sitting and sits down, clearly upset. After a few minutes she asks the manager to speak with someone higher up. The manager says "I'll give you the number for my boss but there's no one higher than me here." The mom says, "That's fine, I'll take that number please."
When the manager returns with a piece of paper the mom says "I understand that everyone has differing opinions in how to parent their children. If I had been beating him, starving him, sexually molesting him, I'd understand your need to step in. However, I was disciplining him the best way I know how when we've had the kind of experience we did today. Whether you choose to spank your children is your business. It is not against the law to do so and I really think you were wrong to escalate the situation further." The manager said "It's wrong to spank your child. Just as bad as all those other things like abuse and someone had to step in and save that child!"
Who is right in this situation?
PS - Sorry this is so long and thanks to those who read it all and answer honestly.
Answer by Syphon at 5:02 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 5:03 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
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Answer by mama2br00ke at 5:02 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
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