My nephew is now 10 years old and his father was killed 4 years ago. He was a really good kid until his father passed. I think it was two weeks after his death my sister had someone new. There are no pictures of him anywhere and no one seems to want to talk about it. My nephew began wetting his bed and acting out and now he is on many different kinds of medication. He saw a counseler for a little bit but stopped when my sister moved to a different county like 20 minutes away. The doctors say he has anger issues and ADHD and a few other things I can't remember but i really don't agree. He tells my hubby all the time that he wishes he was his dad and it really breaks my heart. He is always getting yelled at for absolutely everything. I don't know if he truly understands that his father is dead because sometimes he talks about him as though he is still alive. I really think he just needs a therapist to talk about his feelings because I don't think he ever got the chance to grieve and that is why he is acting out. The anger didn't start until his father was killed. I'm afraid to say something to my sister because I think she will get mad at me and ignore me and she is the only family I have in Tennessee. Is it a good idea if he stays with me and my girls for a school vacation or something and I just talk to him about it?? He has stayed with me before for two days but I was too scared to talk to him but while he was with me I didn't see any anger or ADHS or anything like that. I really just need advice because I don't think he needs to be on 5 different medicines, I think he just needs someone to talk to and I would be more than happy to talk to him about it. What should I do?
Answer by Kimimale at 5:29 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
I lost my father at 15 and it doesn't matter what age or how they died losing a parent is hard on a child. Those are very strong emotions for someone so young to deal with on their own I would say yes he needs therapy. It might be a good idea to host a few slumber parties at your hour house just so he can be in an environment where he feels safe and can talk about his feelings. I hope all goes well for him and you.
Answer by dorsey3 at 5:31 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Sounds like he also needs a positive male role model in his life, is your hubby able to be that person? I would definitely try talking to him. Start a casual conversation and see where it goes. If he seems uncomfortable cut it short. Don't spend too much time on the things you can't control-diagnosis, medication, mom's boyfriend... But try to focus on the things you CAN impact- talking to him, spending time with him, a shoulder to cry on. Good luck
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