Hi ladies. I was just thinking about my husband's poor table etiquette. It isn't little stuff like using the wrong fork that worries me: he has much bigger problems. He chews with his mouth opens, gets food all over himself, chews on his napkin, etc. It's really sad. His parents never taught him good manners, and the times I have brought this up it's hurt him.
He has told me that when he was young (he's 40 now) he was told this by a friend and "really tried to fix it." He believes it was part of his dating problems and has held him back professionally in some cases because he makes a poor impression at business lunches and dinners. He actually WANTS me to help him, but when I mention "let's try to eat slowly tonight" or "honey, I notice your mouth is open" he looks visibly hurt.
How would you handle this? Any ideas how I can help him without making him feel like crud? He's an awesome guy, he just doesn't know any better.
Answer by sahlady at 5:46 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
HEY..... you know what.... IF he Knows he is doing it but STILL does it perhaps he has a tongue thrust that was never addressed as a child.
1) does he slurp when he eats? specially soup type things?
2) does he feel he NEEDS to take large bites?
3) does he feel he NEEDS to take large gulps when drinking and drink it in a large gulp??
You need to find a myofunctional therapist and have him evaluated for a tongue thrust.... his dds may be able to do it or refer him to someone. The retraining of his tongue may take a while because he is older... but it IS something that can be fixed!!!
Answer by sahlady at 5:50 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
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