Having a problem I need help with. I have a 19 yr. old son with Aspergers & OCD. We are on a very limited budget; but our son doesn't seem to understand why I can't buy him everything he wants. He is always angry that there is not food in the house that he likes or that we don't buy him things he wants. He seems pretty normal most of the time, but we are still aware he has challenges. However, we can't keep supporting him and really need him to get a job. We don't mind him living at home, but can't cater to his every whim. He had his first job last summer, and though it was only a temp. position, felt totally dejected after they hired the other temp. employee instead of him. IDK if that has affected his self esteem, but it's been 4.5 months since and he's not really motivated to get another job. I'm tired of being yelled at every time he doesn't get what he wants. The stress is bad for my health. I don't want to kick my son out of the house if he can't support himself, so I'm in quite a quandry. Every time we try to explain that we can't afford to keep buying him things and that we really aren't obligated to do so, then suggest that he gets a job, he shuts us out! Huge wall goes up; doesn't want to hear it! Any advice would be appreciated.Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 8:06 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by MamaAlice54 at 8:22 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by Holly. at 8:37 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
"looking" normal doesnt mean he is normal.......i have a 9yr old aspie son who "looks" normal but isnt ....thats going to be your first hurdle......YOU personally are going to have to change your way of thinking......take him to the social security office and see what they can do for both of you....you need him to move on because of your health and he needs to move on from being a child to transition to adulthood.....they have mentoring programs he can attend that will work with his schedule and give him some job skill training...
Answer by cara124 at 11:07 AM on Feb. 19, 2011
Answer by TwilightMack at 9:54 AM on Mar. 9, 2011