Now I understand kids are resilient, and that children 2 and under typically don't remember much from that time when they get older, but my question is do you think it is age appropriate for a 4 year old to attend a visitation/viewing of the body and funeral for her great grandfather? A little background information: the child does know the great grandfather pretty well actually and knew he had been sick and said her goodbyes weeks ago. The child also has a hard time with separation, her parents split when she was 1 and although she doesn't remember the split she knows now they are no longer together, her dog died at the start of winter and she struggled for months, praying at bedtime that God would keep her dog safe and "writing his name" on every paper she got her hands on, she is angry her aunt is getting married because she fears the aunt will not ever come around anymore, she has nightmares about one of her maternal figures leaving her and moving away, etc.
Knowing this would you still take the child to see the body and watch the funeral or would you find something more "fun" for her to do during the grieving process?
Please share what and why
Answer by sta517 at 10:40 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by wenona_mandy at 10:41 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by momavanessa at 10:42 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by kaitilala at 10:44 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
I agree she is too young. I went to my first funeral at about 10 I think it was and it really traumatizing.... Instead how about doing something fun that her and her grandfather used to enjoy. Or take her to do something in Memory of him. Maybe make a necklace together that she can wear or a bracelet in memory of him. Or give her a nice picture of them together.
Answer by June_Mama09 at 10:55 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by Guinhyvar at 11:19 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by skittles1108 at 11:48 PM on Feb. 16, 2011
Answer by 4theloveofTink at 7:37 AM on Feb. 17, 2011
Answer by hotelmom123 at 2:42 PM on Feb. 17, 2011
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