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i think my boyfriend is cheating.. he's never cheated before but i found evidence today.. what do i do?

he forgot his phone today when he left for work and i went threw it being a nosy woman that i am.. and i found text from this other girl.. i text her of course and asked the hell was going on she swears nothing and so does he i just don't know what to do.. we've have our problems in the past and i love him more then anything he's my love and my best friend but now I'm starting to wonder if i really don't know him like i thought i did.

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newbaby19

Asked by newbaby19 at 2:26 PM on Nov. 18, 2008 in Relationships

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  • red flag...make him come clean ans decide if you still want to be with him

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:27 PM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • and...sorry
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:27 PM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • Ask him CALMLY what is going on. What is he doing? How serious is it? Then you can calmly discuss what the next steps will be.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:30 PM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • You found your evidence. Do you want to continue on in a cheating relationship? Of course they deny wrongdoing. Human nature.
    EireLass

    Answer by EireLass at 2:30 PM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • Are you 100% SURE he's cheating! Don't accuse him if you're not 100% sure! Is it possible that it realy is nothing? I would just sit tight for a while a watch him very closely un til you are absolutely sure he is cheating! Make notes of everything you see and then confront him. Then LEAVE! But only if you know with out a doubt he is cheating?
    amydh

    Answer by amydh at 2:38 PM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • becareful you could be opening a can of worms if he hasnt cheated you accusing him of it could chase him that direction. what kind of txts where they? it is possible its nothing and then again it spossible something is going on just becarefull how you approach this.
    Mommy2B04

    Answer by Mommy2B04 at 2:42 PM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • what did the text say?
    jasesmommy0529

    Answer by jasesmommy0529 at 2:51 PM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • i hink that u should get more into it before you say anything
    elle2hot4u

    Answer by elle2hot4u at 2:53 PM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • what did she text him for you to be worried?
    NATTY567

    Answer by NATTY567 at 2:57 PM on Nov. 18, 2008

  • Yeah you need to be careful. You should have asked your SO first, calmly. Its only a text you didnt say what was said so be careful of how you act about it. You dont want to seem overly jealous controling. You have to trust him to have friends even other woman. Just because there was a text that you didnt know doesnt mean that they are sleeping together learn the facts before you freak out.
    Jenlos

    Answer by Jenlos at 3:02 PM on Nov. 18, 2008

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