I have a VERY argumentative 10(almost 11 ) year old boy named Joshua :) In order to keep some peace around here, I really do ATTEMPT to pick my battles with him...if its not worth a fight...I let it be...such as how he wants his hair cut..I bite my tongue and allow him to express himself.
WELL...this morning..he walked downstairs ready for school in a tshirt that was all stained up..CLEAN..yes..STAINED>>very much so!YUCK! I made him change it and he was just not happy about it.It still being winter out, I made him then go get a sweatshirt to throw over the (now changed tshirt)..he comes down in a sweatshirt that is intended for play..stained dirty around wrists and looks 100 yrs old. I sucked in my breath..I just knew it was going to be a battle. My mind raced..should I or shouldnt I make him go change?
I said,"Josh, honey...thats sweatshirt really isn't appropriate for school." He automatically kicks in his argue mode."THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS SHIRT I'M NOT CHANGING AGAIN!" he yells.I say "Josh, it IS clean but it is very stained and I can't let you go to school like that, you look like a hobo". JOSH: "I don't look like a hobo,mommmmmm and I like this shirt". ME:" JOSHUA,go change your sweatshirt..your teachers are going to think I don't wash you clothes and what you wear is a reflection of me so go change it RIGHT NOW" JOSH:" YOURE GONNA MAKE ME MISS MY BUS MOM!!I'M NOT CHANGING!" ME: " YES YOU ARE! NOW! GO!"
LOL...he did eventually go change but not before we became louder and louder.Do you think this was one of those battles I should have just closed my eyes and sucked my breath in on and let go? Or was this a good time to have stood my ground?
I mean..I don't want him going to school looking dirty, you know.Plus he goes to a school where a lot of kids are pretty well off...i've been there and they dress neat and clean...
What do you think you would have done in this situation?
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