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Is it fair?

DD(4) was told that we would go outside after her brothers were up from nap. I have told her at least 5 times not to go upstairs (just today) and wake them up, because they were taking their nap. I also said, that if she wasn't going to listen we weren't going to go play outside. Is this a fair trade off? I told her what would happen if she did not listen.
I'm really at my wits end with it all.....she does this everyday...wakes them up and then they're all cranky.

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:58 PM on Feb. 17, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Sounds fair, and is something she can easily understand.

    Answer by Scuba at 4:00 PM on Feb. 17, 2011

  • yep, totally fair! my 4 year old has done the same thing and suffered the same consequences!

    Answer by tnm786 at 4:01 PM on Feb. 17, 2011

  • Fair enough for me.. Maybe you can try leaving put the part or not dwelling too much on when they get up then you can go. Maybe you can just tell her you'll go out a little later and get her to do something else while they're taking a nap so she isn't concerntrating on them waking up.

    Answer by gutterflower585 at 4:02 PM on Feb. 17, 2011

  • yes!

    Answer by mlmsm928 at 4:04 PM on Feb. 17, 2011

  • thats fair since she's 5, she's able to understand. My sons 3 & if i told him that he'd understand, its just weather or not they choose to listen. if you follow thru maybe she'll stop

    Answer by hellokitty1978 at 4:06 PM on Feb. 17, 2011

  • Yes, that is a fair trade. You explained to her what would happen if she chose an inappropriate behavior. She is plenty old enough to understand.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 4:13 PM on Feb. 17, 2011

  • Yup, it's fair

    Answer by Raccoon at 4:31 PM on Feb. 17, 2011

  • Say what you mean. If she does not go outside then she will learn. You did the right thing.

    Answer by sta517 at 4:35 PM on Feb. 17, 2011

  • She may need more attention when the others are napping. Sometimes they go for the neagtive attention when they do not get enoguh positive attention.

    Answer by elizabr at 7:38 PM on Feb. 17, 2011

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