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Which of these makes a person weaker? Bitterness or forgiveness? Why?

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Asked by zebbiebug at 9:17 AM on Feb. 18, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Forgiveness is an all powerful action. It frees both the victim and the perpetrator.


    Answer by adnilm at 10:13 AM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • Bitterness ofcourse!! You cannot be a strong person if you have such terrible emotions that is caused by bitterness.

    Answer by jen2774161 at 9:18 AM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • Bitterness. Because it's a lot easier to be bitter towards someone about something that happened than to verbally and through your actions show that you have forgiven them.
    However; keep in mind that there's a difference between forgiving and trusting again!

    Answer by LogansMom831 at 9:19 AM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • I think bitterness makes you weaker in as much as you deprive yourself of being at peace.

    Answer by elizabr at 9:19 AM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • I think living in bitterness is horrible for one's spiritual self. I think forgiveness is s wonderful way to live, and offers alot for the soul.
    I would not say either makes one "weak" as that is a horrible way to label someone.

    Answer by sahmamax2 at 9:32 AM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • Forgiveness makes a person much stronger!! Living with bitterness eats at one's soul.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:35 AM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • Bitterness makes us weaker.

    Forgiveness may be a long process, but it's a sign of strength and healthy self esteem. We no longer see ourselves as a victim. It's unhealthy to hang on to anger and bitterness, it only hurts US--usually more than it hurts whoever wronged us. Forgiveness allows us to heal. Forgiveness is letting go and moving on, and not allowing our past pain and anger to direct how we live our lives now. It allows us to become more than just victims from our past. "Hatreds do not cease by hatred, but by love"~Buddha "To understand everything is to forgive everything"~Buddha

    Answer by pam19 at 9:52 AM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • bitterness

    It's a lot easier to hold on to resentment than to actually forgive.

    It takes someone of great substance & strength to actually really forgive someone who did them wrong.

    Answer by samurai_chica at 9:59 AM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • Bitterness! For all the above mentioned reasons!

    Answer by liteofmine71 at 9:21 AM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • bitterness. what you put out into "the universe" is what you will get back/become. If you live your life bitter, you will be suseptable to anger, hated, etc. That kind of stuff can make you emotionally and physically weaker. If you can forgive, you can move on. You don't have to forgive others for wrongdoings, but you can forgive yourself, learn, and become emotionally stronger.

    Answer by boobarandbell at 9:21 AM on Feb. 18, 2011