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Do you give rules or do you let them do what ever they want?

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:00 PM on Feb. 18, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Our DD has never met grandma and grandpa and she's 19 months old. Chances are she wont meet them until she is 3. But hey that's the sacrifice of being military.

    DD will have some rules and they will have some rules. Follow the routine, don't load everything up with sugar, but as parents we're pretty lax so I am sure they will be the same way and there wont be any issues.

    Answer by Razelda at 6:02 PM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • i try, but they never listen

    Answer by angevil53 at 6:03 PM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • I agree- you can try but don't expect much to be inforced. I think that's kinda the fun of being grandparents!!!

    Answer by skittles1108 at 6:06 PM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • do not spank
    do not force them to take part in your church services--- they can attend church but won't be forced to partake in their rituals
    make them brush their teeth before bed
    do not leave them with anyone else before asking my permission --( child molesters are rampant)

    Answer by gwen20 at 6:08 PM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • I really dont give them rules. I just tell them what she doesn't eat or what not to give her unless she eats dinner. But both sides of her grandparents know how to take care of her.

    Answer by acruz86 at 6:11 PM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • No, not really, my mom raised me, so I trust her to make her own rules. If she wants to feed them cake for breakfast (which she is known to do) that is just what happens and grandma's house.

    Answer by Bubbie0809 at 6:14 PM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • no rules my dh parents ahve raised 4 kids and my parents have a riased 2 so i would hope they would know what to do

    Answer by regian19832002 at 6:15 PM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • All of my DD's grandparents know my rules and what i expect from them. But at the same time, I know that things with grandma or grandpa are different.
    I don't allow my DD to eat junk food or sweets at my house. And I would prefer that they wouldn't either. But i tell them as long as you give her something healthy before the junk food, i can deal with it. And although my DD is only 22 months, she already prefers fresh, healthy food to sugar and junk.
    She doesn't spend much "alone time" with them, so when/if she does, i just want her to have fun.

    Answer by Mme.Langley at 6:16 PM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • Generally, no. I give suggestions, like "you're going to want to make her use the potty in the next hour," or "she just ate pancakes, so she probably won't need a snack for a while," but they're perfectly capable of keeping her safe, which is all I really care about.

    Answer by SWasson at 6:17 PM on Feb. 18, 2011

  • No, I will give suggestions occasionally but they are more than able to handle the kids and keep them safe and thats really all that matters.

    Answer by countrygirl06 at 6:25 PM on Feb. 18, 2011

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