i know someone that just recently her long distance boyfriend, who she met online about a year ago, and visited twice in that year (states apart, i might add), just moved here in November. he has 3 kids from a previous marriage (wife left him and kids). i get it, they're all lovey dovey and blah blah blah. i would be too. stupid part: he came here on a whim. quit his job, got out of his lease, took kids out of school and just left. didn't even look for a job before he came. so here he is, 4 months later, still no job. but that's not what i'm aggrivated about. 3 days after they move here, she was already calling them her kids. she's always talking about how she's a mom, she even changed her hours at work because it's "so hard" to get off work late and deal with kids, cook dinner, ect. these kids are over the age of 5, younger than 10 (don't know the exact ages), which obviously can bathe, entertain and dress themselves. (i get off at 5pm with 2 kids ages 2 and 3, who can't do either, well, we're working on the dressing themselves, but they need a bit of help lol, and the entertainment is limited on how long it is :)
my issue: THEY'RE NOT HER FREAKIN KIDS!!! they JUST got here! what makes her even think she has the right to call them that (she's even got them calling her mom!!) how the heck is the dad even ok with this??? only thing i can think is blinded "love eyes", or he just wants a woman figure in their life and is happy they have one.
a few weeks ago, one of them had a rash on her arm (i work at the school they go to, so does the "mom". the dad was there cuz, well, he doesn't have a job. it's a private school) they decided to take her to the doctor. well, guess who took her. not the dad. nope. he sat there and read a book while she took HIS daughter to the doctor. (she has the paperwork and stuff to do all that) why the heck couldn't HE take her, when she was at work??? i was in the room during it all, there wasn't even a conversation over who was taking her. i guess it was just obvious she'd take her. ugh.
yesterday, while at her nephews birthday party (the nephew and my ds are friends) she was talking about the oldest wanting a birthday party just like that one, and how she said she thought she was too old for a party like that, she'll be 10, she can have like a sleepover or something. like she's been doing it for years. puh-leze. and the family is all into it. they're calling them her kids, their nephew and neices, grandkids.
i don't get it. how can you go from internet girlfriend to mom in a matter of 3 days??? can someone PLEASE explain this to me??? i've kept my mouth shut, as it's not my place to say anything. but i'm at my breaking point. i can't even look at her, for fear i might go off on her.
i know this is more of just a vent than anything, but aaahhh!!!
Answer by ElsaSalsaaa at 10:57 PM on Feb. 20, 2011
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 10:30 PM on Feb. 20, 2011
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 10:26 PM on Feb. 20, 2011
Answer by gwen20 at 10:27 PM on Feb. 20, 2011
WOW I think shes great, who are you to judge her? what kind of example are you teaching your child? She excepted someone elses children unconditionally and she takes care of them I see no problem with that at all. While I do agree the gather should of taken the kid to the Dr. the rest I don't think you have a right to judge nor complain.
Answer by wyattgrace at 10:48 PM on Feb. 20, 2011
Answer by ElsaSalsaaa at 10:59 PM on Feb. 20, 2011
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Answer by scmedicalasst at 10:40 PM on Feb. 20, 2011
Answer by tabbys4 at 10:49 PM on Feb. 20, 2011
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