You should begin a kind and honest dialogue with him about how to pull together as a team for the family. Ask him about his feelings on things, let him vent a little without becoming judgemental and let him know that while you understand that he's stressed, saying mean things is not acceptable to you because you two are in this together. Work on a schedule together on division of labor and child responsibilities and stick to it. Be sure and praise him for jobs well done and be encouraging. You can do this, it's hard when you have a new kid in the mix, but if you work together, it can be done with less stress.
at 7:00 AM on Feb. 21, 2011