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Can you think of anything else?

When my 13 yo says something snotty, disrespectful for each infraction she stays 1 hr in her room working on a past math or science paper that has been done in the past for retention. Is there anything else better we could do for disrespectful behavior?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:19 AM on Feb. 21, 2011 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Maybe write a paper about how what she said is wrong? I think you'll only get her to hate math and science by doing what you're doing.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:21 AM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • I have done writing penalties in the past- but made it relavant. Like maybe having her write about better, more effective & respectful ways she can communicate w/ others. An hour seems a bit long, even for 13. Maybe assign her a chore, like windows, or some other chore that may take her about a 1/2 hr. to do. If it's ongoing, cut off all forms of electronic communication until she learns to communicate w/ you better. (no cell, no computer, etc) It's such a fun age isnt it?! Hang in there :)

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 10:26 AM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • Have you ever asked her why she thinks it is acceptable to speak to you in a disrespectful manner? Often, a simple conversation can transform a relationship.

    Answer by rkoloms at 12:41 PM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • It only took one time with my son. He is 16 years old, and he smarted off to me one night and I got right up in his face and told him if he did it again I was going to smack the taste out of his mouth. I don't whip my boys so I guess the threat made him realize I meant business.

    Answer by morningstar1972 at 1:22 PM on Feb. 23, 2011

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