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Two months and still nothing.

We have been actively trying for two months now, every night and the doctor even gave me prenatal vitamins to help with the process but this is the second month we've gotten negative results. Are we doing something wrong? Is it usually this difficult to get pregnant at 23?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:27 AM on Feb. 21, 2011 in Trying to Conceive

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  • Are you serious? I think the average time it takes a couple to get pregnant at your age is about 6 months or so, it can happen sooner and it can happen later. Relax.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:29 AM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • No, you're not doing anything wrong. Keep trying, and if it takes more than a year get yourself and your husband tested. Two months is nothing. 


    Answer by Anonymous at 10:29 AM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • Don't get discouraged. It has only been 2 months. That is really not long at all. With my first, it took 5 months. With my second, it took 2 years. Do you know when you are ovulating? If not, I would get an Ovulation Predictor Kit. Only have sex every other day around the dates you are ovulating. You can have sex at other times too but around ovulation only try to have sex every other day. Good luck!

    Answer by Snewo at 10:30 AM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • Yes, I agree you need to relax, focus on something else, your brain and anxiety play a number on you sometimes.

    Answer by older at 11:01 AM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • first off relax. its not a race. for us the minute we stopped trying we got pregant. you dont have to have sex everday and it puts more stress on you and your partner which can make it even more difficult to get pregant. it can take up to a year to get pregant if after a year and still nothing thats when you should start to get tested to see if something is wrong. gl and relax.

    Answer by laura970 at 11:02 AM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • Prenatal vitamins do not increase your chances of conception.

    You said that you are active every night. Well, that's really not going to help. You need to know when you ovulate as that's the only way you will ever get pregnant. Buy some OPKs, use as directed and time your intercourse accordingly.

    2 months is nothing. Get concerned after 12 months.

    Answer by SnapdragonSMT at 12:07 PM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • Healthy couples with no fertility issues can take up to 18 months to get pregnant. The vitamins are good so keep taking them. They might not help with conception itself, but improve your health and will help prevent birth defects once you do conceive. And actually every night is too often. Sperm live on average for three days so maybe give him the night off unless you do enjoy the practice.You also do need to know when you ovulate to maximize your chances. He needs his vitamins as well so make sure he's getting them. Specifically for him Vitamin C, E, B-12, manganese, selenium, and zinc. Also make sure he gets enough EFA's found in seeds (pumpkin,sesame,sunflower), nuts, and oily fish (tuna, mackerel, herring, and salmon) Specifically for you Vitamin C, E, B-6, manganese selenium, and zinc.

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 12:42 PM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • Like everyone else said, no offense, but 2 months is no normal. There are those freak of nature people who get pregnant right away, but most people on the first try take up to a year or more to get pregnant. With my first it took over a year, plus one ectopic. With my second it only took 3 months. It never gets easier being patient, but just relax and enjoy having sex!

    Answer by moviemom22 at 3:34 PM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • Every couple is different. As hard as it may seem, 2 months is really not that unusual for trying....Being younger can work in your favour as long as there aren't other fertility issues (irrregular periods, his sperm count, blocked fallopian tube(s), as well as so many other factors too numerous to name) But, a doctor won't usually run any tests until you have been trying at least a year first. Then, you can ask to get some fertility tests done and/or be referred to a fertility specialist if needed.
    All that to say, keep TTC. Do you chart your daily temps at the same time each day, watch your cervical mucus changes as you near ovulation or use OPK"s to help you pinpoint when your LH surge has occurred (all so that you can time intercourse accordingly)? If you are just having sex every other day all month long that can be very draining emotionally and physically for both of you (if you have to keep doing that for months).

    Answer by miraclewaits at 8:32 PM on Feb. 21, 2011

  • If you do know when you might be close to ovulation, you can time intercourse accordingly around those few days that you are most fertile each month and then just enjoy intimacy the rest of the month.
    I also got the book, Taking Charge of your Fertility which is a great book that I got online and she has personally gone through some difficulties of her own TTC and offers 'real' and useful advice as to what you can do to help aid with fertility, what to eat/not eat, vitamins you can take (both you and him) and so on. It has been very informative for us on our journey. We did acheive pregnancy in November after TTC for 4 months. Best wishes on your TTC journey!

    Answer by miraclewaits at 8:35 PM on Feb. 21, 2011

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