My husband is a workaholic who has admitted he does not have the "nurturing father" gene. If he's not at work, he's sitting on the couch watching TV, playing video games, or in his home office on his computer (where he chats on message boards and on Twitter with "fans" of what he works on). He's on his second week of forced vacation (forced because if they didn't kick him out of the office to take a break, he'd still be there) - and every morning, he grabs a cup of coffee and heads into his office. OK, occasionally he actually goes and changes our son's pull-up; but after that he's in his room.
He has joked that he loves his work more than his family. But I think we all know there is some truth to that.
I am clearly not happy, and stressed out as a SAHM to our crazy 3-year-old. His solution is to throw money at the problem. Often, I feel like he just tries to buy my happiness. Yes, it's nice that we don't have to worry about bills, but is that ultimately better for our son? A big reason I just don't complain about it (to him) is that, well, at least my son (and I) can live comfortably - no worries about bills, food, clothes, etc. If I ever left my husband, and end up with custody of our son, then he would surely be in daycare full time while I try to make ends meet. Either way, it's not like his father would be in the picture very much.
Do you suck it up, put your own depression on the back burner, because it's somehow the better option for your child?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:32 PM on Feb. 21, 2011 in Relationships
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