My mom is a hardline Baptist Rapture-ready Christian. I was raised this way but I have a seeker's heart and have always been open to other ideas and philosophies which drives my mom insane. I am in my 30's now, married with happy children, and have finally found a measure of peace in my life after being brainwashed (attempted anyway) and traumatized during my life by mother, even though of course it's all because she loves me. For the last few years, I have basically been agnostic and am done with debating people over their beliefs, but mom just won't leave me alone. Every time I am with her, she corners me and tries to argue and debate and tells me "jesus is coming", I'm sure you know the drill of the fanatical. I normally just try to placate her by nodding and not engaging her in a debate about it, because it's POINTLESS. This woman is a complete zealot. I've tried for the sake of our family to be tolerant of her.
Yesterday we went to my parents house and as soon as we got there, my mom started in on me. I wasn't in the mood for it and basically told her I didn't want to hear it today. She flew off the handle and said the ugliest, most hurtful things to me. She attacked me as a human, criticized my parenting and told me that I am leading my children into hell where we'll all be going. (except her of course; she's got that direct line to God that no one else has) She said that obviously it would be her responsibility to "save" my children. I won't even go into the other things that she said to me, some of it front of my kids before my husband got them out of the way and out of earshot. She ripped me to shreds all because I don't share her brand of Christianity. I never even told her I was agnostic in an attempt to spare her feelings and spare her any worry because she is TERRIFIED of hell.
I'm crushed. Heartbroken. My mother has never liked me (she really hoped all her kids would be missionaries), but this is just so completely messed up. She talked shit about my kids and how I parent them. That crosses so many lines. I don't know that I can ever move beyond that, especially since I can guarantee you there will never be an apology or acknowledgment of the pain she caused ,just like there has never been an apology for anything she's ever done. After all, she's "righteous". For the record, I have GREAT kids who are kind and respectful and do well in school.
I don't really know what my point is. I guess I just wanted to put it out there and get some feedback on the situation from Christians, non-Christians, whoever. Do you think that when people get this fanatical that it crosses into the realm of delusion or mental illness? Why is she so hateful?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:32 PM on Feb. 21, 2011 in Religious Debate
Answer by kimberlyinberea at 1:44 PM on Feb. 21, 2011
Answer by ImaginationMama at 1:45 PM on Feb. 21, 2011
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Answer by misses_nick at 2:03 PM on Feb. 21, 2011
I sorry. I think I would just stay away for awhile you don't need this and your kids don't need to be around it. Hopefully someone else in your family can get through to mom, but it doesn't have to be you.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 2:07 PM on Feb. 21, 2011
Answer by Shaneagle777 at 2:13 PM on Feb. 21, 2011
Answer by Shaneagle777 at 2:16 PM on Feb. 21, 2011
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