When my daughters father was completely absent she was a well behaved well rounded and good girl. Now that is somewhat around she is the complete opposite. When we eat I want her to sit at the table and sit still, no toys and playing around and drink once you are through with your food. He believes she can run around and play and drink while she is eating. When we are at a store he thinks if I get to the store and she wants to leave then I need to drive back home until she wants to go the store. I think If I drive 40mins to the store to get something she is going to wait until I am done and we can go home. When its bedtime she likes to say she is hungry over and over just to stay up. I tell her no food and she can have a glass of milk if she likes but its bed time. He thinks she can watch tv, eat as long as she wants and not listen to me. My daughter is 3 and like most kids make up stories he believes that he should take what she says and not question it. I believe to speak to my daughter to find out if its true or is she been silly.
the list can go on and on. We are not together but I allow him in my home to see her since he has visitation. (he manages to miss every visitation--that in itself is a complete different story) well I cant take this anymore. We went to the store the other day and he was running around with her putting her on th counter and just making so much noise it was embarrassing. When it is only my daughter and myself she is so well behaved people compliment me that she is so little and so well behaved but now she turning into a child that does not know how to behave. She will not listen to me because in all her fathers opposing parenting techinques he will get loud in my face and she everything revolves around her and shes the child so I have to let her do what she wants when she wants and my daughter sees this and knows if she does something bad or that I dont agree with that he will go against me when I want to talk to her and ask her to listen.
what should I do? I am now just not going to let him in my home and on outings with us but if he is alone with her what should I do?
This is also a man that has taught my daughter to call me a bitch. He has taken me to court to fight for custody and visitations but never makes the vistations. Whenever we go to court the judge and po sides with him and everythig I say is a lie. This man was not a aprt of my daughters life for about 2 yrs and still now I have to beg him to come see her.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:55 PM on Feb. 21, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by tootoobusy at 3:01 PM on Feb. 21, 2011
I would have a serious sit down discussion with him and let him know that it is NOT okay for him to let her behave this way. It's confusing to her and consistency is what she needs. Telling her to call you a bitch is absolutely unacceptable and you can request a different judge.
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