The whole pregnancy she's been a DREAM - she has been totally in love with this baby since we told her she was going to be a big sister. She talked to my belly, kissed my belly, and tried to share whatever she had with her little growing sister by shoving it in my bellybutton. Pennies... Cheeto's.... :D It was hilarious and so, so sweet. I'll never forget the look on her face when she saw her new baby sister for the first time in the recovery room. Utter HAPPINESS. The ONLY disapproval I've seen is she has issues with having her carseat moved over behind the passenger seat. She liked to stay in the middle, and now she sees lil' sis's seat in the middle and she cries & says "I don't want a baby sister, I want to sit right THERE!" I've explained to her that Mr. Policeman says now that we have baby sis, this is the safest way for them to ride in the car. She still pouts. :\
Anyway, other than that, now that we're home, adjustment to new baby has been wonderful... she loves to kiss her on the forehead & hold her little hands, and talk to her. Absolutely no negative behavior towards baby sis at all. However, she's been acting a little "funny" lately towards Dad & I. Not really acting out, but just kind of giving us the "silent treatment". Or she'll just look sad sometimes & I'll talk to her & ask "Do you feel sad? Do you feel mad?" until she says yes. (I don't want to flat out ask her "Are you upset about bayb sister" b/c I don't want to put any ideas in her head.) She said she was mad the other day. I asked who she was mad at and she pointed to me. :( I asked why she was mad at me and she said "I can't tell you". (She does that often if she's upset, and I understand she may not have the words to express herself this way yet). She said that to Dad a couple of times too.
I think her behavior is a manifestation of anxieties about little baby being here, even though every other aspect she shows nothing but love and affection towards her little sis & the situation. I do try to include big sis in EVERYTHING I DO and I make a point to make the reason NOT about the baby if we do have to say "no". I think some special "mom & me" time is in order but I don't know what I can do really, because little one is nursing sometimes every hour on the hour!! I have to have little one nearby at all times right now. She's only 12 days old and never has had a bottle, she only occasionally takes her paci. I don't want to cause any nipple confusion, nursing is going pretty well.
Any suggestions as to how I can make this easier on my almost 3 yr old DD??
Answer by laura970 at 10:14 AM on Feb. 22, 2011
Answer by ldmrmom at 12:57 PM on Feb. 22, 2011
Answer by ldmrmom at 1:01 PM on Feb. 22, 2011
Answer by wifedoll at 5:40 AM on Feb. 23, 2011
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