I have indeed tried, but have made my amount of mistakes as a parent. ok those days are past. My ex h has never really involved himself with my daughter. he had been a coke addict for many years, then we divorced when she was 12, then he went to jail for possesion for a couple of yrs , I remarried. He (my ex) never really supported me as a parent, and i really needed for him to do that, as i also had serious issues from my childhood. well the yrs have gone by, and daughter used to be very disrespectful to me, but had gotten much better about it until recently. now she is 18, has a great job, a car that i gave her 2500 to put toward, has a home and for years i have been trying to teach her with love about the things in life. she has always had some huge entitlement issue, not that i have totally spoiled her, because i was a single mom for some time, pulling the weight for yrs without any child support. daughter loves my current husband... she is thankful to him for all that he has done for her, because her really has gone out of his way when ever the situation . now my husband and i spoke with her recently about not coming in and out during the night... and last night she did it again. she left at 2;45 and returned at 5am. when i spoke with her about it this morning in a nice, but firm tone, she said f*u and was telling me that I don't do s***, that I sit on my a**, that all I do is open my legs, that she is about to hit me, there is more but you get the idea! we had told her before that she can not be acting like that if she is going to live here... so when she said these awful things, i told her to take her things and get out. she can not live here with that attitude. she said to get the *out of her room because she was going to hit me. I called my ex h to tell him as calmly as i could what had happened, and he totally blamed it on me. saying that because i got remarried that's why she is like this and bla bla bla. no support. so i said that she is not going to be living here, and if he wants, he can offer her a place to stay. I feel right about telling her to leave, because her attitude is not going to change without some sort of earthquake. but at the same time she is my daughter and i wish things were different. I wish she were making different choices.Answer Question
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I am So Sorry you are going through such a Tough time with your daughter- The things she said to you & the way she was acting is Beyond Disrespectful- You did the right thing by telling her to leave- Tough Love is Hard to do but, sometimes kids leave us with no choice- Hopefully, she will see that the Grass is not Greener on the other side & she will Apologize & Follow your rules in your house- my kids are grown & they have never talked to me that way but, if they did; as much as i love them- there is No Way i would put up with it- Wishing you lots of luck!
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