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I have a SECRET... DO YOU?

My husband is my best friend, we tell each other everything!! HOWEVER, I have one deep dark secret. I have told him he was only guy number 4. But in reality, he is actually number NINE! I moved from another state, and no one here knows me nor have I slept around... (which I never did before, those were with men I had a relationship with, going all the way to 13) I am 25 now, and I would never tell him the truth! Wrong?? Maybe.. its not like I have a disease anyways... Is it wrong not to tell him?

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:26 PM on Feb. 22, 2011 in Relationships

Answers (18)
  • It's wrong to lie, but your past is your past..... It isn't anyone's business how many people you have or haven't been with.

    Answer by kitchenwitch78 at 3:27 PM on Feb. 22, 2011

  • Yes . .. some things are better not talked about . . . I would hate to be reminded of my husband's love life before me . . . .yuck.

    Answer by ImaginationMama at 3:27 PM on Feb. 22, 2011

  • Most people lie about the number of sex partners they have had. Don't fret about it. He probably lied too.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 3:28 PM on Feb. 22, 2011

  • That is something that Dh and I dont talk about...past is the past!

    Answer by rebeccadac at 3:30 PM on Feb. 22, 2011

  • Why lie about it to begin with though?
    I can't answer if it's wrong or right not to tell him, because I don't understand why you chose to lie to begin with.

    Answer by Mom2theboy1994 at 3:30 PM on Feb. 22, 2011

  • In time you may feel like telling him but some poeple don't that type of thing well so it really is your decision to tell of not.

    Answer by Graciesmom528 at 3:32 PM on Feb. 22, 2011

  • ~*Anon*~... means it is still a secret

    Answer by MommaClark3 at 3:34 PM on Feb. 22, 2011

  • WHY WHY WHY is this even a question between couples??? Its so useless and really does not matter. Dont worry about telling the truth it will only start a fight unless it's really eating at you for his to know your exact amount of partners.

    Answer by MelissaAnn224 at 3:37 PM on Feb. 22, 2011

  • Ehh my husband hasn't asked me my number so I haven't told him. I asked him his and when he told me, he asked if I've been with more and all I said is yes lol. But we don't usually ask things like that and even that conversation was at the beginnning of our relationship...when it mattered.

    Answer by jessicarae787 at 3:39 PM on Feb. 22, 2011

  • NINE PEOPLE is A LOT!!! thats why Im embarrassed to talk about it. My mother has only been with my father, so I was raised to have morals, and I feel like I through all of that out the window!!! LOL

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 3:55 PM on Feb. 22, 2011

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