My husband is pretty good to me. He takes me out to eat, and he has taken on the roll of a father. However, i feel as though he doesnt really treat my kids like he does his.
First being, when we go to a store, he wont buy my kids a toy, but for his daughter, he buys a thirty dollar toy. BUT she is only with us three times a yr seeing as though she lives in another state.
He was with his ex for 12 yrs. they have two kids. I noticed some clothing she left behind, and they were very nice. she had polo shorts and some other things, the kids, baby gap clothes and old navy, polo, etc. She never worked, and he is so damn cheap, that I wonder how he allowed her to splurge on those items, but when it comes to my kids, I dont buy them a thing bc he is a penny pincher.
My thing is, he can spend the money on HIS kids, but not on mine? I work, so I will be buying their clothing, but should it matter who's money it is??
I want to tell him how I feel, that I feel my kids are secondary, but Im not sure if it will go over well.. Should i talk to him about it?
Asked by Anonymous at 4:31 PM on Feb. 22, 2011 in Relationships
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Answer by Bugzmomma at 5:02 PM on Feb. 22, 2011
The key to a strong relationship is communication. No matter how you feel the conversation will go, you need to talk to him about it. If you keep these feelings in forever, eventually you will blow up and it will be ugly. Second of all, maybe one reason he is a penny pincher is because his ex wife splurged so much, and that might be part of the reason they broke up. As far as his dd, I think he is trying to buy her love and affection and make up for the fact that he is not with her as much as your children. I'm sure he does not realize the difference in the way he treats them.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 8:41 PM on Feb. 22, 2011
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