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how can i make him stop

I love him but he is such a cry baby,I thought it would stop,when he started walking,but now hes even more pitiful,because now he can flail,and throw himself on the floor,I dont want to be mean to him,but im 6 1/2 months pregnant,im fat and tired and am on the verge of not givin a crap

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4four

Asked by 4four at 12:26 PM on Nov. 19, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Ignor his fits when kids don't get a a reaction they tend to quit crying. It may take a week of ignoring him when he's throwing a fit. Just tell him that you love him and will talk to him when he is ready to calm down then walk away.
    bugandsmiles

    Answer by bugandsmiles at 12:28 PM on Nov. 19, 2008

  • First of all I would recommend being patient with him. Not sure of the actual age because many babies walk early then some later make sure he or she is getting their needs met and perhaps appropriate attention they need..perhaps they are ill or an illness is coming on could be the culprit of them acting out or crying or it could be the temper tantrum saga starting to unfold. Perhaps call someone to help you out..
    wwwmom0000308

    Answer by wwwmom0000308 at 12:32 PM on Nov. 19, 2008

  • just make sure he has what he needs. he's fed, he's clean, he's not thirsty, or tired, and give him toys or turn on his fav. tv show to give urself a lil break. dont get to impatient with him, your pregnant, so u might be a bit more irritable, BUT that is NOT his fault. so dont take it out on him. cause he could be sick, etc... do ur best with him, and if he continues to throw fits, then let him be, he'll get the picture sooner or later that he wont get his way acting like that.
    if ur to annoyed, have someone you trust come and watch him for awhile so you can take a breather. every mom needs it to be the best they can be. good luck.
    kiliki_malie

    Answer by kiliki_malie at 12:43 PM on Nov. 19, 2008

  • They get frustrated. At this age (Im thinking a year to a year and a half) they're on the verge of being able to do so much, but they can't quite get it yet. They can't make themselves understood, they can't get things they want, they can't even really tell you they want it. Make sure booger is safe, clean, and fed and let him work it out. There really aren't any other options. Im going through this too, and it usually takes him a few minutes but once he realizes he's not having any impact on me he finds something else to do.
    Jenny-talia

    Answer by Jenny-talia at 12:48 PM on Nov. 19, 2008

  • There is a large difference between normal "cry-baby" behavior - always wanting mom to hold you, always needing mom for the slightest bump or scratch - and full on tantrums.

    For "cry-baby" behavior, you need to accept that it's his personality and comfort him. The more you refuse, the worse it will be until he finally realizes that his need for love and comfort does not matter and he learns to squash it. Not good.
    -cont-
    kaycee14

    Answer by kaycee14 at 1:29 PM on Nov. 19, 2008

  • For tantrums, IGNORE HIM. I assume he throws himself on the floor and kicks and screams (or cries) when you tell him no or try to make him do something. Take him to his time-out spot (if you don't have one, pick one!) and LEAVE HIM. Except for dragging him back there, ignore him. Stay nearby but read a book or write the shopping list. Do not let him leave until he is calm. Once he is calm, pick him up, thank him for calming down, say you know he was mad when you took the scissors away, tell him let's go find something you can play with, then go play with him for a few mintues as a reward for being calm.
    This is NOT a time-out so the time limit of one minute per year does not apply. If he throws a fit AND you need to punish him too, the time-out time starts once he is calm.
    kaycee14

    Answer by kaycee14 at 1:29 PM on Nov. 19, 2008

  • Well, why is he throwing fits?
    Kids don't do it just for fun, there is usually a reason..
    Liyoness

    Answer by Liyoness at 4:44 PM on Nov. 19, 2008

  • ignore him ewhen he flails and tell him when hes done you will talk to him and walk away
    Cherish050307

    Answer by Cherish050307 at 11:59 PM on Nov. 19, 2008

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