I have to ask, since there are a variety of moms here.
I am a single mom of 2, I work full time, and go to school part time. I am also in the midst of starting my own business. So as you can see i am a very busy person. I am home everyday when I am not at work (my school is online-and I do school work after the kids are sleep..otherwise it never happens).
Alot of people say Im a bad mom because I go out every weekend. I go out every Friday or Saturday (only one of those-per week), if even that. By the time I go out, my kids are already sleep and I am home before they even wake up.
I feel I do a lot during the week....I'm not complaining, but because I choose to spend 5-9 hours out the whole week for my own time, when my kids are sleep, Does that make me a bad mom?
**Thank you all for answering, Just to answer a few questions that got brought up.
Last April my dad passed away, since then my mom is with me, so she wont be alone, and it helps with the kids.
My mom is the only person who watches my kids (except when she is working which is hardly ever), then its my sister in law or one of 2 of my bestfriends. But when I go out, I will only go if mom watches them. I never leave my kids with anyone else so I can go out, I just don't feel its right.
When I do go out, I don't get trashed, I learned a LONG time ago, like when my son was a year old, how SO not worth it, it is to get so trashed, especially when I have to take care of my my kids the next day...cause I HAVE to do it, its not an option, so why even make it harder on myself.
Time for my kids, dispite all that I do. My normal hours at work are from 9-5, some days I have to work late, depending on events (Im a catering assistant). I spend the ride to school just me and my son....when I get home, getting ready for work, its me and my daughter. Its not much, but I try and bond as much as I can before the day starts. When I get home on a 9-5 day, Its straight mom mode. the first 1/2 hour so is just "Mom's home, hugs, bond", then going over school work with my son, and then dinner....while I make dinner I sometimes include my kids depending on whats being made. Dinner is always at the table together, this is like an hour to an hour and 1/2, talking about or day or anything fun.....after dinner is bath and bedtime....I always tuck my kids in bed.
**Of course I have my occasional days where my mom may help with some of the child caretaking....but I try and spend what I can with my kids....My school work and my business is taken care of from 9 until about 1 in the morning. I don't even try and do any of that when the kids are up....Lets be real, its not going to happen.Answer Question
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