my SO told my parents he was going to claim our child this year. he provides everything for her. the only thing is that she lives here with me and my parents. if we need a ride, or groceries, diapers, or doctor's appointments, or anything. he handles all of that and the expenses. he's been a very good father. involved in our dd's life since she was born.
but when my parents found out they couldn't file my dd for their taxes they were furious. my SO tried to tell my mom, but she's really not the easiest person to talk to. i can't even really talk to her.
but i understand both sides of this situation. my parents have claimed our dd all the previous years and he wanted to do it this year. since he provides everything. except we don't live with him because we're not married (traditional parents). he has recently joined the military and all that for when we do get married.
but i feel caught in the middle. even if my parents and i don't always get along. and even if i borderline hate them. i still love and respect them. and understand that they pay for the house and utilities we use.
on the other hand the guy i'm supposed to marry has now decided to claim our dd this year since all his expenses go towards her.
i wish the IRS did half-sies lol. i'm so frustrated. i feel like i have to choose sides and i can't cuz i love them both. but now it's like they're tearing me apart. (again)
SO doesn't want me to be the middle man but considering how my relationships with both parties are i don't think it can be helped. i'm caught in the middle.
my parents are furious at him. and i kind of mad now too because i feel like he could've just waited until we were married to claim our DD for the rest of her life. my parents feel like he's totally disrespected him. and idk what to say. i feel like they could give him a LITTLE bit more credit. but i also am frustrated with SO right now because he knows things are financially tight.
i guess now would be a bad time to tell them about my PPD.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:52 AM on Feb. 23, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by samurai_chica at 10:56 AM on Feb. 23, 2011
if he pays for all her expenses then i think he deserves to claim her, and your hole situation is the reason why you should have never started letting your parents claim his and your child
Answer by Mrs.Prine at 10:58 AM on Feb. 23, 2011
Answer by lillyblue111 at 10:58 AM on Feb. 23, 2011
Answer by NannyB. at 11:00 AM on Feb. 23, 2011
Answer by samurai_chica at 11:03 AM on Feb. 23, 2011
Answer by princesschilly at 11:03 AM on Feb. 23, 2011
Answer by kimigogo at 11:04 AM on Feb. 23, 2011