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What could be the issue? adult content

OK, so my SO and i have always had amazing sex.. we have a 2 yr old and were separated for a while.. within the last month we have moved in together.. lets just say, he has a hard time getting it up.. when it was only once a week or whatever cuz we didn't live together and it was amazing.. he seems to be embarassed that he cant get it up sometimes(not all the time) but when he does the sex is just as amazing.. he keeps telling me that its not me and we try all kinds of stuff when he really wants it, but sometimes to no avail.. what do you think we should try or do?

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Asked by sunshinebaby209 at 3:45 PM on Feb. 23, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (8)
  • maybe he has ED? or just try some Viagra

    Answer by febmom007 at 3:47 PM on Feb. 23, 2011

  • He needs to see a doctor.

    Answer by prettyinink2011 at 3:47 PM on Feb. 23, 2011

  • Has he started any new meds or anything lately?? Is he stressed or tired alot??? It could be many things... You need to talk to him and find out whats bugging him and if nothing is just give it some time

    Answer by gutterflower585 at 3:48 PM on Feb. 23, 2011

  • yeah he is feeling really self counscious cuz he has gained some weight and cant find a job.. and no he hasnt started new meds, i keep telling him he needs to see a doctor cuz diabetes runs in his family and that can be a cause but he wont.. he is too embarassed i guess

    Comment by sunshinebaby209 (original poster) at 3:50 PM on Feb. 23, 2011

  • Have him see a Dr., it could be a health issue.

    Answer by HKing01 at 3:51 PM on Feb. 23, 2011

  • I'd have him see a doc to be on the safe side, but it sounds like he's really stressed out, and we all know what that can do to a person's sex drive.

    Answer by lovingmy4babies at 4:08 PM on Feb. 23, 2011

  • You mentioned two things that ring a bell !!!

    1) He may be affected by unemployment of gain weight, so the issue is psychological. Once he gets a job, ANY JOB to start with and
    keep him busy, it's gonna be perfect.

    2) Another possibility is that he suffers from Diabetes, and we know that erectile disfunctions are symptoms for this disease.

    Of course we shouldn't be playing doctors and just assume things :
    Sweetheart, go to a doctor, or buy a Diabetes home test / kit.

    Also, just in case, check on the INternet, there are fruits and salad herbs that help lower the blood sugar level,
    so you can take care of your man.

    Good Luck !

    I like your admiration for your man, and your appreciation for his masculine side : This will help him as much as possible.

    Answer by lillyblue111 at 4:13 PM on Feb. 23, 2011

  • i absolutely adore him, and i love when we are able to have that connection between us.. i didnt know that they had home tests for diabetes.. ive worked in doctors offices for so long that i know that could be a sign, but we dont have insurance on him right now, so he will not see a doctor.. but thanks for the advice everyone

    Comment by sunshinebaby209 (original poster) at 4:23 PM on Feb. 23, 2011

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