My son is seven his sister right below him is four...he has friends over after school occasionaly and we have always let her play with the boys as long as things dont get to rough...well he had a buddy over after school today and they all went to play in his room (lil sis included) and after about a half hour she starts crying so I go in to find out what happened and his sister tells me he hit her with his plastic baseball bat on accident...the friend says she was hitting him and he threw my son the baseball bat...my son has said nothing so far so I sent the friend home...after talking to both my children I find out that the friend was hitting my son repeatedly my daughter grabbed a toy lightsabor and started hitting the friend telling him to leave her brother alone and then the friend throws my son a baseball bat and he wacks his siter in the face with it!! I am appauled that my son would do that...I mean it is one thing to not stand up for your self which I feel he should have done in the first place but it is a whole nother matter to turn coat on your little sister after she makes the decision to stand up for you particularly against a boy nearly twice her age and size! Beyond that he knows he is never to hit a girl under ANY cercomstances and he did and she knows she isn't suposed to hit either but I am having a hard time being upset with her over it I mean the kid was hitting her brother and she wanted to put a stop to it, it took some guts to stand up for him like that...I have told them they are both in trouble for being violent and that if this friend causes similar problems the next time he is in my house then he will not be allowed to return...I told my daughter that next time she needs to come talk to me instead of hitting and her brother has been told that his friends shouldnt be hitting him or his sister and if they are he needs to ask them to leave because he doesnt need friends like that...I told my son that if he wants to have friends over it is his job to make sure they follow the rules in our house and that if he cant stand up to his friends and make sure they are upholding his house rules then he wasn't old enough to have friends over...I am just really concerned that he didn't stand up for himself at all and that when his sister did the only thanx she got was a bat to the face...that really makes me wonder about the kids priorities and if he is letting his 'friend' hit him and doing nothing then what else is he letting happen to him in order to gain exceptense? I know he is kind of a timid kid but I dont want to be raising a door matt he needs to stand up for himself...I dont know what to do to help him do that and I dont want to encourage him to be violent...I dont know any thoughts ladies?
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