I guess I just wonder if I'm the only one. I'm sure I'm not, but I'm curious.
I am in a monogamous marriage but my heart isn't.
I do now, and have loved my husband's brother as a man for probably about 10 years now.
He makes my heart leap every time I see him.
I won't tell anyone not to bash because I know they will. Just don't expect a big reaction.
Feel free to express any comments you would like, but I really do think I've heard it all. Things like 'it's not real,' it's just because it's your husband's brother, get out of dream land, all kinds of thing.
I have tried to do all those things, I've been to counseling and at one point even considered getting hypnotized.
But I think what has always given me the most peace was just accepting my feelings as my own, and to stop feeling guilty. To tell myself that it's OK.
I am not having a affair and it never has been. Believe it or not, my husband knows and accepts it.
I try to remind myself of what my husband told me when it gets tough, made more sense than any other thing I was ever told.
"It's OK to feel the way we feel, we can't control feelings, but we can control what we do about them."
Guess it just feels good to confess every now and again ;)
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