I over heard a conversation he was having with my father about setting money aside. We are broke! We are still so behind on our bills. I am very upset over this because I have been going without just to make ends meet. When I tell my husband I would like to save up to get a hair cut or buy clothes for the kids he says just spend the money. The difference is I know we do not have it to spend. He just bought a $ 200.00 Inversion table for his neck. Even though it bothered me because we didn't have the money I let it go because he was hoping it would help but this new expense just puts me over the edge.
Am I overreacting? If you do not think I am how do I go about discussing this to a man that believes he is the bread winner and can do with the money as he sees fit.
Answer by lashes325 at 10:14 AM on Feb. 24, 2011
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Answer by letstalk747 at 10:16 AM on Feb. 24, 2011
If he is squirreling away money for a luxury and you are behind on bills of course there is a problem. Is he aware of the black and white, on paper, facts? If not, that is where I would start. It would appear, from all you've said, that he is being immature. You two need a long talk regarding finances, budget and living beyond your means. When you live like that there is no cushion, no financial safety net. What happens if he gets hurt or laid off? Is there ANY money set aside for emergencies? Speak with him frankly but avoid accusations. Avoid making him feel like he isn't making enough. Just lay it out about what the financial reality is.
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