Your SO/whoever you're living with doesn't notice the work you've done?
Right now, I do consider it my job to keep our apartment clean, because I'm unemployed and my roommate works 7 days a week. So I'm the one who does the dishes/laundry, and I'm the one who keeps the place tidy. It's not a difficult job, because between the two of us we do not have a lot of stuff, and my son doesn't live with me, so there's no toy mess or anything. The place never gets particularly messy, so it's not a big job to clean it. Today I have people coming over, so I spent yesterday doing a big clean up, where I vaccuumed and everything... which is not something I do every time I clean. The place is much cleaner than usual.
On my roommate's way out the door this morning, he says "Clean this place up today, it's a mess." Excuse me?! There are no dirty dishes in the sink, no clutter anywhere, not even any mess in the front doorway. Of course I got mad right away.
This was one of my biggest issues with my son's dad. When I was a SAHM, he expected the house to be SPOTLESS every day, and when it wasn't, he was pissed. When I did get around to cleaning (it was a much bigger job there) it went unnoticed and unappreciated. My roommate is usually really good about thanking me for cooking and cleaning and everything, and he usually makes me feel appreciated... but when my efforts go unnoticed, it really upsets me.
Does anyone else have an SO/whatever that does this? Does it upset you as much as it does me?
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