I've had 2. The first one I was 14 weeks and it was Jan '09. I remember going to the dr and he was sitting there telling me that it happens all the time and that I shouldn't feel like it was something I did, but the worst was my best friend telling me, "Why be so upset about it, you can always have more babies." I just couldn't believe that my unborn child just died, and that's the best she could do to comfort me. I told her that it was something to be upset about because I could never have THAT baby again. I did get pregnant again and my son was born Jan 31, '10. Then a few weeks before his first birthday, I found out I was pregnant again, but at 7 weeks (also in Jan) I lost that baby too (and this time the best my friend could say was, "At least you have Phoenix"). I feel like no one really knows how I feel, and what to say to me. Here on CafeMom is the first place I've ever see other people openly talk about these things. It makes me feel better to know that other people out there feel the way I do, and that there is nothing wrong with me for being so heartbroken over the loss of what can never be now.
Answer by prettyinink2011 at 12:00 PM on Feb. 24, 2011
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Answer by kfroz0415 at 12:27 PM on Feb. 24, 2011
I know how you feel, I had an ectopic pregnancy Dec '09 at 7 weeks & lost my left fallopian tube, then I got pregnant again & miscarried at 7 weeks in Jul '10, it was soooo hard for me & still is especially this month that my baby was due Feb. 13th, I cried & still cry over my baby, even though I'm pregnant again 8 weeks, I'm happy yet scared, but I'm trying to stay positive with this one things seems to be going good (don't want to spit too high though). But the way your best friend is acting is wrong she should be more supportive, don't worry in this site all these women are wonderful & very supportive, I'm so happy I found this site it's helped me alot through my pain of the loss of my babies, these ladies are so nice, so your in good hands here =)
Answer by VanillaBlondie8 at 12:28 PM on Feb. 24, 2011
Answer by kfroz0415 at 12:29 PM on Feb. 24, 2011
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Answer by mykidsmom86 at 3:57 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by miraclewaits at 8:59 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by miraclewaits at 9:02 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
So sorry. I don't think your friend was TRYING to be insensitive, but maybe she didn't know what else to say? Of course it's better to just admit that you don't know what to say, but...
Answer by 1smartcookie at 1:21 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
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