I have an almost 4 year old son. He doesn't go to daycare, I stay home with him. His father and I together (never seperated). For the past two years my son refuses to go to bed at night (sometimes not till 3 am in the morning). He also stopped taking naps about two years ago as well. He just refuses to take them. Although he does need them. Its like he is always going on a neverending shot of adrenaline. We have tried changing his diet, made sure the house was mellow at night before he went to bed, has a good meal, goes to bed at the same time every night. And still no change, he still refuses to go to sleep.
Then there is the other stuff. He is totally and utterly defiant. I've seen children his age and they can be reasoned with. He will not be reasoned with. He will scream until he gets what he wants and if he doesn't he screams louder and is relentless (he will not stop; the he will get tired bit doesn't work on my child). If we tell him no, he says "I said yes". Its like NO is not a part of his vocabulary and he refuses to hear it. We can't take him out to dinner because he causes a scene every time. And yes he does get disciplined. We've tried everything from firmly talking to him to taking him into the bathroom and spanking him (And no its not a tap on the butt, he cries) but five minutes later he's back to doing exactly what he was doing before.
I'm at my wits end. I love my son and I love being a mother. But he has made it so that I can't enjoy being a mother. And yeah I know there will be plenty of you saying motherhood isn't always a bed of roses. Is it fair then that I've been miserable since this all started two years ago. I need some advice/ help. If there are other mothers out there that seem to have the same problem please speak up because I am going out of my mind. Thanks in advance.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:01 PM on Feb. 24, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 4:06 PM on Feb. 24, 2011
Answer by TARARENEE at 4:07 PM on Feb. 24, 2011
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 4:08 PM on Feb. 24, 2011
I have a 4 yo too. She used to go to bed wonderfully, but at age 3 started to fight it. We established a routine that we stick to. Brush teeth-read 2 stories of her choosing-get into bed. We play a music CD, and she knows mom or dad will stay in her room with her for the first two songs. By the 3rd song she is ready for us to leave the room. It has worked very well. There are those times she pitches a fit, but honestly we let her CIO. She falls asleep. We can't give in on those nights she is trying to test us.As for behavior, yeah attitude has increased at this age. I will do time out for talking back, and make her apologize. If she screams the whole time she's in time out, she stays longer. If she chooses not to apologize, she stays until she is ready. She knows time out is no joke. There are times if she's really being a butt (refusing to clean toys or yelling at us) I take away privledges (games-toys). It works.
Answer by KairisMama at 4:08 PM on Feb. 24, 2011
Answer by beyondhopes at 4:09 PM on Feb. 24, 2011
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 4:15 PM on Feb. 24, 2011
Answer by tripletmom28 at 4:16 PM on Feb. 24, 2011
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