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What do you consider cheating?

dancing with someone else?
kissing someone else?
oral sex with someone else?
being felt up by someone else?
having sex but no mental connection with someone else?
having a mental connection with someone else, no sex?

just curious. thoughts?

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Asked by Bugzmomma at 6:21 PM on Feb. 24, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (20)
  • That answer is different for everyone. IMO, if, when you picture your SO doing one of the above and it makes your stomach hurt, then it's cheating.

    Answer by DMac08 at 6:22 PM on Feb. 24, 2011

  • all of the above

    Answer by letstalk747 at 6:22 PM on Feb. 24, 2011

  • I agree, all of the above! My husband agrees!

    Answer by prettyinink2011 at 6:23 PM on Feb. 24, 2011

  • My belief is you can look all you want, but you keep your hands and your words to yourself.

    Answer by MamaStuart at 6:24 PM on Feb. 24, 2011

  • Dancing-no. I wouldn't be happy if they were rubbing all over each other, but I wouldn't consider it cheating.
    Kissing-now that I'm married, its not 'cheating' per se, but its definitely not acceptable and there would be some serious trust issues.
    Oral sex-yes.
    Being felt up-yes
    having sex-yes
    mental connection-that's a tough one. In a way yes, but it'd be hard to define. It would definitely cause trust issues.

    Answer by erinwhitt at 6:24 PM on Feb. 24, 2011

  • Kissing and everything following that. Dancing is fine.

    Answer by at 6:25 PM on Feb. 24, 2011

  • Anything that requires either a physical or emotional connection to another person other than me. The dancing one would depend, my husband sometimes gets in the mood to dance - I don't dance ever - so if we're out with friends and he wants to dance I don't mind if he takes a friend out to the floor but its a no to him dancing with someone he meets at the bar.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:25 PM on Feb. 24, 2011

  • Any intimate emotional or physical connection with another person. I think a dance with a friend or family member at a wedding or something is just fine.

    Answer by misses_nick at 6:27 PM on Feb. 24, 2011

  • I think anything that he would do with someone that he would feel he had to hide from me. If you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse you shouldn't do it behind their back.

    Answer by Bubbie0809 at 6:29 PM on Feb. 24, 2011

  • all of the above


    Answer by virginiamama71 at 6:32 PM on Feb. 24, 2011

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