Because I was a teen mom, my biggest fear was having my daughter also become a teen mom. Although I don't blame my mother, I do believe me being so uneducated about sex was the biggest reason I got pregnant. I was 15. The guy was 20. He told me we didn't have to use protection because I wasn't developed enough to get pregnant and he took a pill to keep him from getting girls pregnant. I ended up pregnant after only 2 times.
My daughter is 11 and she has already started her period so the worrying has begun. When she was around 8-9, I had "the talk." I kept if very general saying I know she had heard this word sex a lot through tv or when adults are talking and I told her that basically it's a way to make babies. I said it's reserved for adults but many boys like to do it because it feels good. I made sure to tell her, even then, that boys will do and say anything to get a girl to have sex with them. I told her she has to be strong and not believe their lies. I told her all the things they will say "if you love me, you'll do it...everyone is doing it...you won't get pregnant...etc" and she should have a comeback for each one. I told her boys don't stick around for babies even if she feels she's ready. She will be a lonely teen parent. Whenever I see a young teen mom in real life, I point it out to her saying "see what happens when you have sex early?" Now at 11, she knows about condoms but they are not 100%. And thanks to one of middle school aged friends telling her what she learned at school, she knows the specifics (sperm meets egg). Now I feel like she knows too much. And too early. Am I right or wrong.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:49 AM on Feb. 25, 2011 in Tweens (9-12)
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