OK, long story as short as I can.
Back about 7 years ago my SIL was having my first niece. We let them know that we wanted to be there (at the hospital) to just be there in case they needed anything. Such as if Daddy needed a hamburger or whatever.
We had no intention of being in the Labor room.
when we got there we asked if we could come in to say Hello. It was a planned day for my SIL to be induced, so when we got there she wasn't really even in labor yet. We said hello and headed to the lounge. They both seemed nervous and asked is to stay and talk. So we did.
They had us in there for a while, and at one point we got up to give them some space. When we came back my SIL was very upset that we had left and wanted us to stay. Her labor at this point was getting harder. I wasn't going to leave and upset her, so we stayed.
To this day she still tells stories of how her birth experience with her first child was so horrible, that so many people pushed there way into the room and took what should have been a wonderful experience from her.
Anyone who was at that hospital was invited by her. As for being in the room, no one WANTED to be in the room, if anyone tried to leave she got upset.
Heck, my husband was even having sympathy pains.
Maybe this is more of a vent because I would never tell her what actually went down. I mean, she was a woman in labor!
When my niece's god mother showed up she started giving my SIL heck for choosing a hospital so far away. I'm the one that took that woman out into the hall and told her to lay off.
When my nieces heart rate was falling below the red line, my DH and I that and got the nurses because my BIL (babies daddy) thought it was normal.
The nurses told me it was a good thing I did let them know. Turned out my niece has the cord wrapped around her neck.
I'll never say anything to them about it, but sometimes I just feel the need to vent on here because it gets me how my SIL can just bad mouth me like that.
note: it's not just this, this woman seems to be very out of touch with reality and in truth I'm starting to worry about her.
one day something is fine, the next week I can get emails chastising me to doing something that she herself said was fine, or in fact I was asked to do by either her or her husband!
Guess I'm just a frustrated woman :(
Asked by Anonymous at 11:30 AM on Feb. 25, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by zperez0809 at 11:32 AM on Feb. 25, 2011
Answer by Rosehawk at 11:35 AM on Feb. 25, 2011
Answer by gdiamante at 11:42 AM on Feb. 25, 2011
You may want to remind her that you remember her getting upset when you did leave the room and how you notified the nurse when things didn't look right to you on the monitor. Maybe you can also get her a bottle of fish oil. It's supposed to help improve memory. It seems that she may have difficulty with remembering things in general.
I'd double check that she really wants what she's saying she wants. My MIL does stuff like that. It turns out she has low blood salt which makes her confused. I hope your SIL doesn't have a medical reason for her not remembering.
Answer by JSD24 at 11:45 AM on Feb. 25, 2011