ok, so were getting a rather large refund back this year. at first he said he wanted to save it, which is a good thing and im glad hes not talking about spending it frivolously or anything.
anyway, i brought up paying off his truck and he said we might be trading it in instead. ok, thats fine. so then he says he wants to buy a $300 amp, call of duty black ops (which runs about $60 around here), paying off his $800 new guitar (which he seriously did not need, he already had 6 guitars) and i think that was it. in the back of my mind i thought to myself, "ok, he doesnt need any of that crap but since he works 50 hours a week and it all goes to bills, the man should be able to buy some nice things for himself"
well even after all that stuff we will still have a lot of money left, all of which he wants to save. were moving soon and ive thrown ideas around about upgrading certain parts of the house. nothing huge, its not like i want to build on to it or anything. i want to toss our shower curtain out and create a whole new theme in our new bathroom, and same with the shared bathroom for the kids. and i also want to buy some nice plants and stuff for the yard, and possibly a swingset for them. the most expensive thing out of the things i want is the freakin swingset. he said maybe to all that stuff. so then i brought up the possibility of a family vacation in the summer, which would run us about 2k for the whole thing. he said we have plenty of time to do that.
i guess im more irritated that hes shutting down all my ideas. i did politely remind him that we have 3 kids and more than half of our refund is thanks to child tax credit, and who spends 24/7 taking care of their need? this girl right here. we had this same battle last year about our refund and hes so possessive over it. i have no problem with him buying what he wants but he takes no consideration into what i would like to do with it. i dont feel my requests are outrageous especially the paying off the debts one, thats practical and sensible.
but i always end up losing this fight. so our huge, lovely refund will sit in the bank after he buys his precious material items. how does this go down in your home? is he posessive over "his" money also?
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