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just need to ask married people a question, married for 13 yrs, husband has had addiction to porn, cause problems most of my mariage, my husband has never been to therapy fr it or done anything about it, 2 yrs ago we came close to wanting to get divorced because i couldn't put up with the shit anymore with him lieing about that and other issues that was going on, he finally admited that he had a problem, and that he was not going to look at it again because he came close to losing his wife and daughter. do you think that a person can just say they are not going to watch it again and don't, or do they need to go get therapy for ti. i do not see any signs of him doing it but you know he has been slick in the past about it . i have put some of my trust back into him but i was just wondering do you think i just don't say anything else about it and beleive that he quit cold turkey or after 2 yrs ago admitting he has a problem and really haven't done anything about it, should i tell him i would ike for him to go to therapy or just say nothing and trust in him that he will not watch the stuff again...he has had adiction to it since he was a teenager, and he is 42 now, lie to me most of our marriage about it we have been married 13 yrs. believe his word that he has quit watching it or wanting to watch or still believe that he need to go to therapy for it, like aa meetings? what would you do or think?

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lisa98450

Asked by lisa98450 at 1:57 PM on Feb. 25, 2011 in Relationships

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  • eek. i wouldn't deal with it because i'm grossed out by it, but an addiction is an addiction plain and simple
    juliness

    Answer by juliness at 2:02 PM on Feb. 25, 2011

  • i think men addicted to porn will always be , and will lie about stopping to pacify you this includes srtip clubs also , therapy probly wouldnt work if they even went which is highly unlikely , good luck to ya , as far as im concerned sex runs the majority of males lives.
    letstalk747

    Answer by letstalk747 at 2:03 PM on Feb. 25, 2011

  • I think if it's a true addiction then he would need some help. Otherwise it's probably not over and done.
    ItsMe89

    Answer by ItsMe89 at 2:40 PM on Feb. 25, 2011

  • All people are different. Some will just say that they will quit, really mean to and not be able to/willing to commit. Some people will really realize that they have a problem and make a serious effort to never let it happen again. In the second case the person may never really be "cured" or stop having the addiction, but they may have strong enough will power and self control to stay away from it.

    It all depends on your husband. I'm sorry you are going through it.
    meandrphoto

    Answer by meandrphoto at 4:57 PM on Feb. 25, 2011

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