Ok so I am getting seriously FED UP. I am normally a pretty chipper person and it takes alot to piss me off (well when talking about my kids, friends and family), but I am about to blow a gasket.
First of all my son who is 17 bought himself a car back in Aug. He knew it was going to need alot of work and that he had to get it running by march. I told him then I dont have the money to rebuild the engine or do much. I can help with small things, but big things not so much. He said he didnt need my help because he had a job and not to worry about it. Fast foward to now, and he has 3 weeks to get the car on the road and is freaking out. He hasnt done anything to this car & he hasnt saved any money to get it on the road.
My dh told me to go ahead and have our mechanic come over and take a look and tell my son exactly what he needs to get the car running. The mechanic came in and fixed a few things and we paid him and he told us what other parts he needed & to our surprise it isnt much. I let my son know because all together its going to cost him maybe $100 to get the car running. He makes $180 a week, I figure he can get what he needs, if not we can give him like half of the $100. He had a total cow and said he didnt have any money and how I had to pay for it. He went on and on how I gave his sister a car, and he had to pay his own. I did give his sister my old car, because she was pregnant and her car was breaking down and was no good for my grandson to ride in. Big difference. Her car also stayed in my name. If she didnt make the insurance payments I took it away. Plus, this wasnt the deal I made with my son. His brother (a yr older) didnt get a car from me either.
In the end dh went and bought him the things he wanted (which pissed me off bc I had said NO). Now my fil is over and he is a cocky guy who thinks he knows it all & really doesnt. He is asking for MORE money for parts the mechanic said we dont need. I finally told them I am not a freaking bank! On top of it my car is acting up & I asked fil to bring my son to church tonight. He called back and mil is in the background having a cry baby fit about it. My car is overheating, and he says well you just take him. Mind you if I break down Im screwed. But screw me right? My dh says when hes at work people are taking advantage of me, and to tell them no, or to talk to him. I have been but it doesnt help. This is more a vent then anything else, but how would you handle this>?
More info my son is high functioning autistic so once he gets his mind on something he has to get it out or done. I dont let him use it as a crutch & try to be understanding, but in this case I feel he is wrong and manipulating me.
Answer by ImaginationMama at 4:31 PM on Feb. 25, 2011
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 4:38 PM on Feb. 25, 2011
Answer by layh41407 at 5:10 PM on Feb. 25, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 4:27 PM on Feb. 25, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 5:06 PM on Feb. 25, 2011