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How can i get my daughter to mind me as well as my husband?

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kendragoff1

Asked by kendragoff1 at 10:38 PM on Feb. 25, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Try time outs anytime she acts out or does something she shouldn't. Explain to her why she goes in time out as well
    mommy_of_two388

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 10:39 PM on Feb. 25, 2011

  • Do you mean your husband minds you better than your daughter minds you or that your daughter minds your husband better than she minds you? LOL
    huntin_mama

    Answer by huntin_mama at 10:40 PM on Feb. 25, 2011

  • My daughter doesn't mind me as well as she minds my husband either (I'm assuming that's what you meant, lol huntin!). I have found that consistency with punishment and reward has helped a LOT. It was really hard at first to remember to only give her that one chance to mind before she got a time out, but it has paid off big time, because now she listens whenever I ask her to do something.

    It's also an age thing, I think. Minding commands comes with more maturity and more ability to understand what is being asked. My husband's voice, tone and demeanor demand compliance, but mine does not. So it took practice. There were a few months there where we didn't go out much because she just gave me hell any time we were in public, but she's over it... for now lol.

    Stick to your guns, mamma!
    Ati_13

    Answer by Ati_13 at 10:44 PM on Feb. 25, 2011

  • LOL. she minds my husband better than she does me.
    kendragoff1

    Comment by kendragoff1 (original poster) at 10:45 PM on Feb. 25, 2011

  • I used to own a daycare ''Grandma's House''.....and many times I would come up against this very problem......brought up to me by both parents. I'd sit both parents down.....on the floor with myself and their child.......and we would talk about ..... (if they minded dad more)....the questions might go......''do you love mommy?''......''do you love daddy more than mommy?''....''do you know that mommys feelings get hurt really bad when you mind daddy...but not mommy?''.....I alwayst insist that the parents sit down at the same level as their child.....because when we stand over our children.........and our children look up at us.....and here what seems to them to be our ''monster voices''.......it does nothing but harm.....And lastly.....give your child time to answer all questions that you ask......be patient.....we often have the tendancy to give our children the answers.....(because it's what we want to hear)
    whisper4evernmo

    Answer by whisper4evernmo at 10:46 PM on Feb. 25, 2011

  • be stern. stick with your punishments. stick with your promises. set the boundaries and let her know them.
    MamaSince2005

    Answer by MamaSince2005 at 4:59 AM on Feb. 26, 2011

  • Be consistent and find what she repsonds to. My son really responded when we started taking Hot Wheels away!
    sweetmemories

    Answer by sweetmemories at 1:52 PM on Feb. 26, 2011

  • Try time out.
    HomeAlone45

    Answer by HomeAlone45 at 8:08 PM on Feb. 28, 2011

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