Should I stay or leave him...???

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  Answered at 7:46 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: LovingParent08
  

  He needs to man up and take care of his responsibilities and if not, then you need to do what you need to do for you and your daughter.
• Answered at 7:55 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: Bmat
  
  You seem to have answered your own question. He is holding you back. Time to make your (and your daughter's) own life.
• Answered at 7:55 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: Xynyth
  
  Kick his ass to the curb! You already have one child to care for you don't need a second. What state are you in? I know a lot of place here in fl they want you to apply online for state aid (nothing wrong with that!) and they will be able to help you with food stamp and insurance for you child at the very least.
  
  With 3 years of college behind you it would be a shame to to stop now. Good luck! Feel free to PM me if you think I can help of just want to talk!
• Answered at 8:15 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: 1countrygal
  
  There is alot of reasons to leave him, how many not to? If he doesn't care enough about his own child he obviously is selfish so unlike him you have a good head on your shoulders and know you will do what needs done to make sure your family is taken care of. There is a government site that can tell you anything you are eligible for grants for school, assistance they will give you childcare expense, food stamps if you need it, even aid for rental expenses. Go finish school, enjoy your life with your child, this is only a bump in the road and things always happen for a reason. God never closes a door with out opening a window. The web site is www.usagov.com good luck!
• Answered at 8:25 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: sammiesmom2000
  
  You need to leave him and then if you need to apply for aid then it will be a lot easier. It sounds like you have grown up and he hasn't and you don't need to be taking care of another child.
• Answered at 8:32 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: NannyB.
  
  If you didn't have a child, I would say go. I think that you owe it to her to stay with her daddy. Children need fathers in their lives, and he is the man that you chose to be her father. The truth is that you knew the kind of person he was, and you chose him anyway. Other people should not have to pay for the wrongs that we do, and some decisions that we make have life-long consequences. This man will always be your child's daddy, because you chose him to be her daddy.
• Answered at 8:44 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: MamaChanny
  
  He might always be her dad but his actions are only proving that he is not concerned for the welfare of his daughter. Maybe he does have the ability to grow up and take care of his family the way he should. BUT it's not fair to you to have to wait around and find out. Don't let him hold you back. As a mom we always put our children first. But him holding you back is only hurting you and your daugther also.
  
  If it was me, I would leave. Maybe he'll realize what harm he's done. But if he doesn't, then you will know for sure that you have made the right decision.
• Answered at 8:46 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: Happee2bmum
  
  Leave him sister!!! hes a bum i dont care if its her dad or not a dad dont sit in bars or couches 24/7 when the woman does ALL the work ur just as well off on ur own...u have been on ur own since u had her it sounds like..anyways so why keep him around and have to feed n extra mouth u really dont need!! do it for ur baby and urself momma!! i applaude u for growin up and takin on ur responsibilities and look at it this way leave him and he hads to get a job to pay for his lil girl that he hasnt been takin care of!!!!!! do what ur heart tells u to!! u sound like a smart woman keep it that way momma!! theres many more fish in the sea :0) if u have tried to tallk to him about it n he still continues to act like a immature bum then boot his ass!!!
• Answered at 8:53 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: Anonymous
  

  I disagree with the above poster, no you don't have to stay with a bum because life went faster than you planned.  Yes you have a child with him, he has shown you very clearly though that he has no intention of doing anything constructive any time soon.  This is not an environment to raise a child in.  What do your parents say?  Will they help while you finish school?  There are all kinds of grants you can get being a single mother and going to school.  Better go upward than circle the drain. There is a considerable difference between being a "Daddy" and being a sperm donor. 
• Answered at 8:53 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: Anonymous
  
  This man may always be her father in the sense that he was there when she was concieved, that does not mean he will ever behave like one. Strapping yourself to him and trying to "make him" be anything other than the irresponsible child he is will not work it will just ruin your life and that of your child. You are a parent now that means you have to make hard choices about what is in the best interest of your child.

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