My mom wants to take me out to eat today for my birthday, but I don't feel right about going. The thing is that I moved out of town and about two months after I moved, she came down and basically followed me. I allowed her to stay with me until she found her own place and she has. She'll be moving in her place soon and I plan on cutting ties or at least limiting contact with her. A few days ago, I was talking to my child's father about the struggles that I go through due to the fact that I missed several opportunities in my childhood to get educated and several other things. I was telling him that I was frustrated with how I reach out for help and how I can't get the help that I need because there are no programs for me because my situation is so different from other people's my age. I am supposed to know how to do things like everyone my age, but I don't. My mom was trying to encourage me and tell me that everything is going to be alright and I just had to let her know how I was feeling inside about my life in general.
We has a small argument and I told her how I've been working really hard to overcome adversity, but how hard it is because she failed me as a parent, put the needs of my stepdad and my little brother over the rest of her kids, and other things that I had to endure. I told her how I still suffer because I missed so much school and the learning experiences that go along with it. You see, I've been judged based on my circumstances and no one really knows the severity of the things that I had to endure. I missed school between the ages of 11-16, missing 2 full years when I was 14 and 15, and rarely going at all for the other years.
When we had our dispute, I informed her that I felt like it was best if we cut ties and she seems to be in denial about my feelings of wanting to cut her off. I just don't know what to do. I have a counseling appointment at the end of this month so I can get over all the pain of my childhood and move on with my life. How would you guys handle the situation? Should I go, or should I politely decline her offer for dinner and birthday money?
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