All kids need a father whether they are good or bad. I think we all have to parent our kids. My older kids dad is a royal peice of crap and was never around for our kids. It did effect them. My dd is almost 22 and married an older man and I think her attraction to an older man stems directly from not having a father figure around. My oldest son always saw himself as the man of the house, and thats also affected him as a young adult. He now has a child of his own and also isnt active in his sons life. I dont think he knows HOW to be a dad, he never had one. My youngest son with this ex doesnt even want kids. He is close with my dh now & been around him since he was 8. He is more like my dh then any of the other kids are. He was luckier I guess since he was young enough to actually benefit from his step dad.
at 3:58 PM on Feb. 26, 2011